Two weeks ago, a longtime reader challenged me to create a new sexual neologism. (Quickly for the pedants: You're right! It is redundant to describe a neologism as "new," since neologisms are by definition new: "ne·ol·o·gism noun a newly coined word or expression." You got me!)
"Neo-Neologisms, Please!" was too polite to point it out, but my two most famous and widely used neologisms have been around so long — pegging (2001) and santorum (2003) — that they're practically paleogisms at this point. So I accepted NNP's challenge and proposed "with extra lobster." My inspiration: On a visit to Iceland, I was delighted to discover that "with extra lobster" was a menu item at food carts that served lobster. This delighted me for two reasons. First, lobster is fucking delicious, and getting extra lobster with your lobster is fucking awesome. And second, "with extra lobster" sounded like it was a dirty euphemism for something equally awesome. I offered up my own suggested definition — someone who sticks their tongue out and licks your balls while they're deep-throating your cock is giving you a blow job with extra lobster — and invited readers to send in their own. It was my readers, after all, who came up with the winning definitions for pegging ("a woman fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo") and santorum ("the frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex").
What follows are the best reader-suggested definitions for "with extra lobster," with occasional commentary from yours truly...
"With extra lobster" sounds to me like going down on someone — regardless of sex — when it's a little more odoriferous than you would like because they haven't bathed in a while. For example: "Things were getting hot and heavy with my Tinder date last night, and then I started to go down and was surprised with extra lobster."
I think I have a good candidate for your "with extra lobster" definition! It could be applied to a man who has an exceptionally large and dangling foreskin ("His penis comes with extra lobster!") or a woman whose labia protrudes ("I love pussy with extra lobster!").
When I first started dating my wife, she kept her lady parts waxed clean, and they looked a bit like a lobster claw, even being slightly red if the waxing was recent. We nicknamed her vagina and surrounding area "The Lobster," or "Lobby" for short. So I would suggest that "with extra lobster" should mean anytime you get some extra lobster in on the act — from normal lesbian sex (two lobsters!), to a standard-issue male fantasy threesome (two lobsters and one cock), to a surprise second go-around after you thought the sex was over.
The area surrounding the vagina already has a name: the vulva. While most people are familiar with the labia majora and minora parts of the vulva, aka "the lips," fewer know the name for the area between the labia minora. The spot where the opening to the vaginal canal can be found — also part of the vulva — is called the "vaginal vestibule." According to my thesaurus, lobby is a synonym for vestibule. So this proposed definition of "with extra lobster" is pretty apt. Now, some will quibble with the lobby-ish implication that a vagina is a space that needs to be entered. One can have a good time — great sex with lots of extra lobster — without anyone being penetrated, i.e., without anyone entering the lobby.
"Extra lobster should be the name for those cock-extender things. Example: "My husband has a small penis. And you know what? The sex is great! He gives great head, and isn't afraid to strap-on some extra lobster now and then."
As a vegan, Dan, I strongly object to "with extra lobster." It reinforces the speciest notion that it is permissible to consume lobsters, sentient life forms that feel pain, and associating a sex act with the violence of meat consumption further desensitizes us to acts of sexual violence.
When you see a gorgeous ultra-feminine creature far more gorgeously feminine than my straight CIS ass will ever be. But under all the silks and stockings and satin panties... there's a wonderful and welcome surprise! That girl comes WITH EXTRA LOBSTER!
I've learned about fursuits from you, Dan, and so many other crazy things — like the guy who wanted to be sexually ravished and then torn apart and eaten by zombies. With that in mind, I think "with extra lobster" shouldn't refer to a sex act. It should be ENTIRELY literal: an act of bestiality performed not with one lobster, but with two or more lobsters. (The zombie guy was what hooked me on "Savage Love." I'm too shallow for the actual problems and stuff. More freaks please!)
Too literal and too improbable — and euphemisms that describe things that have never happened or only happen very, very rarely are unlikely to enter the lexicon.
I used to hook up with a cuckold couple with a particularly naughty fetish: I'd fuck the woman, fill her up, and her man would eat it out of her. So, say you hooked up with a woman, let's call her "Melania," and her husband, call him "Donald," ate her pussy after you filled her with cum. Donald is eating pussy with extra lobster!
Sounds more like pussy with extra chowder to me — and what you've described already has a perfectly good (and widely used) name: cream pie. And, please God, let's leave Trump out of this. There's no need to associate something so vile and disgusting with eating another man's cum out of your wife's lobby.
"With extra lobster" should refer to any intimate pleasure where your expectations are greatly exceeded! I'm a gay man in my 60s, and my husband and I have been together for a decade. I also have a friend with benefits. One night we were camping and I blurted out, "I would like to cuddle with you." What happened next was 12 courses — at least — with extra lobster! We've managed to rekindle this energy every couple of years over the past 25!
I believe your example of "with extra lobster" regarding an extra WOW factor during something sexual is perfect and doesn't need extra explanation. As the saying goes, Dan, you pegged it!
I agree with the last two letter writers: "with extra lobster" shouldn't refer to any specific sex act — and it should never involve actual lobsters and/or mental images of the current president of the United States — but should, instead, be a general term meaning "expectations exceeded." When someone really comes through for you, when they knock your socks off, when they make you see stars — when they really WOW you — then you got boned or blown or fucked or flogged or torn apart and eaten by zombies with extra lobster!
And with that sorted and settled, a bonus neologism to close the column...
This isn't a definition for "with extra lobster," but I wanted to share it. I live in Uganda and many of the streets are lined with stalls that sell BBQ chicken. If you know to ask for the special chicken, they'll often sell you weed. Special Chicken has become my favorite euphemism for weed!
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