Best Places to Meet Single Women Online and in Real Life (2021)

These days, it can be more difficult than ever to meet single women. The pandemic has changed the way we date, for sure. While people still meet organically, the best places to meet aren’t necessarily in bars, concerts, or nightclubs.

Online dating sites have always been popular, but recently more single people are finding dates from their phones or desktop computer. While dating sites have gotten a shady rap lately, we’re here to tell you that they are a great way to meet single women. And there are still places in real life to find a beautiful date.

Read on — we’ve compiled the best places and dating sites to meet single men and women online and in real life.


AdultFriendFinder is the one-stop-shop if you’re looking for a date, friends with benefits, online fling, or something a bit more exciting. Whatever your reason for meeting single women, you’ll find them here.

Founded in 1996, AFF is a reliable dating site that has expanded its network globally in the past few years. Boasting an increasingly large member base and numerous interactive features, this site is one of the most popular places to meet single men and women online. There are also lots of forums and interesting video chats to explore.


You can sign up for free, and you’re even able to use a lot of the site’s features for free. AFF even lets you earn points with a free account towards a membership. If you save up 4,400 points, you’ll get a free month of gold membership.

But if you’re serious about meeting someone, and don’t want to deal with the restrictions of free membership, it makes sense to pay for all the features.

An AdultFriendFinder membership costs $39.95 for one month, $26.95 for three months, and $19.95 for a full year. It’s easy to see that paying for a full year is the most economical deal.

Starting a Conversation

To begin a conversation with someone, you need to access the messaging function. And to do that, you need to either pay for a membership or save enough points. The message system is easy to figure out, and there are both messages and IM options.

If you want to meet a woman for a date off the site, it may take some finagling the points system. Plus it may take multiple messages. You can save some time by asking for a potential date’s phone number in the first few messages. This can get the ball rolling, so to speak. If you’re in the mood for some cam play, you can meet through the in-app chat feature.


Seeking is a dating app for attractive, elite, wealthy, and well-established singles from all walks of life—from entrepreneurs to celebrities. If you’ve got money and you want to join an elite dating app, give Seeking a try.

This site is also called Seeking Arrangement, so take that for what it's worth. Beware: there are a lot of fake profiles on here so look for the verified accounts.

Things To Consider

Keep in mind that if you’re looking for dates you’ll need to verify your email and income. This can be a pain, but it’s necessary nonetheless to find matches. If you want to be extra safe as you should always try to be when dating online we recommend using an email address exclusively for this site. Also never give out information that is too personal until you are comfortable with a date.


Seeking is free for men and women to join, and you can browse all you want. To enjoy the app’s features, a paid membership is recommended. With the free one, you get 10 messages that you can send. After that, you need to pay. A 30-day subscription to Seeking costs $19.99, or sign up for 90 days and pay $15.00/month.

The initial sign-up for is very easy, but the verification process can take a long time. In your main profile, they ask you to specify what you’re looking for and to describe yourself. This is where you can describe what it would be like to go on a date with you and the type of person you are looking for. Be descriptive with your profile without revealing too much personal information. Try to convey your personality and what your expectations are.


Everyone’s heard of eHarmony — they boast a good reputation, and they’re one of the most popular dating sites. You’ve probably seen the commercial for eHarmony on TV. Founded in 2000, the site and app’s compatibility matching system results in a narrowing down of each person's match to a fewer list of possible matches. This saves time and is more likely to create better matches for men and women.

eHarmony creates around 15 million matches a day through scientific research. More than 600,000 couples got married because of the site! Okay, so you’re not looking to get married. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find some quality dates on eHarmony.


eHarmony’s free membership allows you to use the messaging feature. However, you can only send five favorite site-generated questions to a match. You can’t send personal messages, but you can send winks to women to let them know you’re interested without overwhelming them.

With the free membership, you can only see the list of matches and not who’s online. Upgrading allows you to meet women outside of your compatibility area.

A 6-month eHarmony membership will run you $9.98 per month, while a year membership will cost $2.99 per month when you pay in full. The longer your membership, the better deal you’re going to get.

Ashley Madison

Check out Ashley Madison — it’s a premium site that’s made to get you connected with great dates.

You will find a diverse array of men and women on Ashley Madison with all different backgrounds and education levels. While free members cannot initiate emails or chats, they can receive them. And if you choose the paid membership, you can look at profiles and chat at the same time. This makes finding a date easier.

Ashley Madison is designed to help people be candid in what they are looking for. This means people using this site are honest about what they want even if it is nontraditional. Because of this, they take discretion very seriously. A woman can only see your face if you allow her to and vice versa which means your privacy and hers are secure.


There’s no monthly fee for Ashley Madison; instead, you buy credits. These allow you to message people you might be interested in. Buying 100 credits costs $59.00, 500 credits cost $169.00, and 1,000 credits cost $289.00. To send a regular message, you need nine credits.

Free Account to Meet Women

You can explore the main features and highlights of the site. The only difference is that to message a woman, you have to buy credits. They can even message you, and you can read it for free. And if you’re serious about dating someone off this site.

The ratio of women to men is impressive, so you are sure to find someone that interests you. There are a good majority of men and women on Ashley who are single and looking for dates.

Where to Meet Single Women in Real Life

Not every initial meeting has to be online. There are still ways and places to meet singles in real life. Take a look around the next time you’re at one of these places:

The Grocery Store

The grocery store might not seem like an ideal place to meet a woman, but in reality, the place is crawling with potential dates. Casually bumping into someone you’ve been eyeing can be the start of a date. You can talk about your favorite cereals and then ask them out for a drink. Talking about food is a great way to break the ice, for both men and women alike.

The best time to meet single ladies in the store is during the day. Plus, you’ll seem like less of a creeper than if you hit on women at night.


Sure, you need to be quiet in the library. But even with those old-fashioned rules, it’s still possible to talk to a woman — or better yet, whisper. The library is a great place to meet a woman that is well-read and educated.

The key is to not act like a weirdo in the library. Make eye contact first to make sure she’s interested. Then, pretend to bump into her at the end of the shelves or ask her what she is reading. Bonus points if you have a good book recommendation by an author she already enjoys. Be a gentleman and pick up her books for her, then ask for her number. If she turns you down at least you’ll have a good book to keep you company.

Wrapping Up

While it may not seem easy to muster up the courage to ask women out daily, it’s possible. This is true for even the shyest of men. With the above sites and tips, you’re sure to meet single women online and in real life!

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