Trans escort Amanda Coxx schools us in ‘the world’s oldest profession’ 

Talkin' dirty

We were curious about transgender escorts, so we looked up Amanda Coxx, an escort and adult film actress who says she's 26. The following is our conversation.

Metro Times: So, what is it that you do?

Amanda Coxx: I do a little bit of escorting, and I do porn. A little bit of modeling. I do adult movies.

MT: What exactly are you selling?

Coxx: I'm selling to dudes who like the best of both worlds. Having tits, ass, looking like a girl, and then a cock.

MT: What kind of guys are your typical customers?

Coxx: I guess you could call it "down-low" guys. Most of them are married, with families, and things like that. Older guys. A lot of younger guys as well. White, black — it all depends. A lot of businessmen. Most of the guys who come see me are like, I guess you'd call it bisexual. They pretty much still like females as well.

MT: Sure. How long have you been doing this?

Coxx: A long time! [laughs.] First, I started working on Woodward, the 6 Mile and Woodward area. Then I went to escorting, placing ads. It's cold out — you don't want to be cold in the wintertime. The streets are very dangerous. I know girls who got shot, who get robbed out there. A lot of guys target those girls, and rob them. I had a girl who was real close to me, she got killed out there. So I'd rather work the ads. It's pretty funny because the 6 Mile and Woodward girls, the younger girls, they didn't know about the ads. Now everyone's trying to work an ad. It's really just made the industry go down. They're charging $20, $30 — charging street prices for escort prices. A lot of them get fake pictures, they call it "catfishing."

MT: Is it dangerous to use a real photo, though?

Coxx: I don't feel like it's a danger. I'm open with myself — I'm not in the closet or anything like that. My family accepts me, and they know everything that I do. I'd rather use my real picture than a fake picture. At least then when the guy sees you in the [ad] he's going to get what he sees.

MT: Was your family initially accepting of your lifestyle, or did it take some warming up?

Coxx: It took a lot of warming up. But after a while they just pretty much came around. A lot of girls, when they first come out, their family disowns them. That's why a lot of people get families out in the streets — like calling an older person their "mother" or "father." They form their own little family. I guess you could call it like a gang, but not really a gang. They form their own family out on the streets.

MT: Do you work for someone?

Coxx: When I first did start off, it was like an escort service. It was this lady, her name was Candy. I worked under her. She would book the dates and place the ads and work the phone, and you would give her a certain percentage off of the date. She had transsexuals, she had guys, she had females. A lot of times, prostitutes work out of the same hotels. Everyone gets close from being in the room all day, and smoke weed or hang out or whatever with each other.

This one girl that I knew, her boyfriend was just pimping her. She'd [go on] dates and he'd take all of her money and then give her what he wanted her to have for food, or buy her some different clothes. He was really in control. I was never really the type to give anyone my cash. I've always been independent. I'm my own boss. I place my own ads. I answer my own phone. Other girls, the guy places their ad, or you call and there's a guy who runs everything. That's pretty much the younger girls, who don't really know about anything.

A lot of girls use prostitution to get drugs and to get high. It's pretty dangerous because I know a lot of girls who are infected with HIV and stuff like that, and they still choose to work in the industry. I knew one guy who called my phone and he said he just wanted to relax and talk a little bit. He came over and brought some weed. He said that he was infected. I asked him where he got it from, and he said, "From ya'll." And I was like, "Don't say from me, because I'm not infected!" But he said from people in the industry. He said he was a [down-low] guy, and he was a [versatile]. So he liked getting fucked, and fucking, and he chose to do it unprotected.

Myself, I don't do anything unprotected. I don't suck dick without a condom, I don't get fucked [without a condom]. I take normal tests. It's really a dangerous job, dealing with diseases. You never know what people might have. And then condoms aren't always 100 percent. It kind of confuses me, because a lot of guys are married, and they still want to come and see you and not use a condom. They're putting their family at risk. It's pretty crazy to me that they're living that kind of life.

I had women that have called my phone and say that they have seen my number in their guy's phone, and [ask] why my number keeps appearing weekly on their guy's phone. This one time, this guy was a regular client, a guy who I would see once a week. A nice business guy — he worked, had a family. And then she ended up calling me. She had called restricted, and I usually don't accept restricted calls, but she kept on calling me. She said that she just wanted to know what was going on. So I asked her, "Are you standing up? Well, maybe you need to sit down for this one." I told her I was a prostitute, I told her he probably got my number off of Backpage. Then I told her she really gotta hold her socks on for this one, because I was transgender. She said she just couldn't believe it. She kind of figured it because she would go after he got off the computer and she would go and look at things that he searched on and he had looked at transgender movies and things like that. She said she didn't really have no idea that he was taking a prostitute. She said, "Please don't tell him that I called you" — she just wanted to keep it a secret. I think they got divorced, and he couldn't afford to keep seeing me.

MT: Do you have clients who are open with their partners?

Coxx: I do have couples clientele, like I’ll see a guy and his wife. They’ll try and act like it’s for the ladies, like we both want to pleasure her. But I’m not attracted to females — I’m attracted to males. A lot of times I’ll have open couples and we all just have a nice time together. There's a lot of people out there that just like weird stuff. One guy likes me to shit in his mouth, which is pretty disgusting, but that's how he gets off.

MT: Do you charge more for that?

Coxx: Of course, because that's just ... ugh. A lot of clientele, you say, "Hey, it's the money." A lot of guys are stinky, a lot of guys are old. They ain't always a nice session. You get your old guys who need help coming up the stairs. You gotta go out there and get them and bring them on in the room. My regular price is $100 for the half, $150 for the hour. Some guys have a tip, some guys are cheapies and can't really afford it, so you go down to $75.

MT: Have you ever had situations where you had to say no, where you wouldn't do something that they wanted you to do?

Coxx: A lot of guys really just want unprotected sex — I draw the line when it comes to unprotected sex. I don't see the shit date anymore because after I shitted, he spits it out in the toilet and I guess he didn't make it to the toilet and he ends up throwing up in my sink in my hotel room. I said, "You like that nasty shit, clean this shit up!" I think he kind of took offense to it. He calls around and everyone shits in his mouth, and that is nasty to me. It just grosses me out.

MT: Have you ever formed relationships with your customers? Or do you keep it professional?

Coxx: It's pretty crazy, because they all think we're in a relationship. They think we're friends. And that's how you want to keep it. You want to feel comfortable. They want to feel like they can talk to you, and I want to feel like I know them. I'd rather have regular clientele. At least I know the guy, or I feel like I know them because I've been seeing them for a while. A lot of dates call and check on me just to see how I'm doing. It's not about the cash, it's about the companionship — just being there as a friend, just being someone who you can talk to. They know you're not judging them, and I'm not nagging them about anything. They feel like they can relax with me.

I just play the roles. It's a role you got to play — like you like them, like you're there for them, like you guys are cool. This one guy he comes in town to see me, and then afterwards he texts my phone all day, every day, talking about my cock. I have to stop him. I have to tell him to only call when he's ready to hook up. I'm not your girlfriend! I hate to be mean, because I don't want to mess up my clientele, but sometimes you have to let them know that they're a customer and this is a business.

Some guys want to keep seeing you, and they think that it gets cheaper. They want to spend less on you. This is a crazy one that I've heard — "I'll give it to you next time." Or, this one kills me too: "Let me owe you one." It's like, no! This is how I make my money, this is how I pay my bills.

MT: Do you only work locally?

Coxx: I travel. There's places where I go for a couple of days, put my ad up, and then I work. There's not a lot of transsexuals in a lot of little cities. So when I come, I have a pretty good rush for a couple of days and then I go on back home. I can make close to $3,000 in a couple of days.

When you're out of town, you can charge more than when you're in the city. There's so many girls coming out — and they're not really transsexuals. Like the guys are getting hip to how the transsexuals are making their money escorting now. So it's like dudes in wigs putting up ads and trying to make money. Then there's guys putting up fake pictures, and he wants to send the girls the dates and get his cut off of it. So now everyone's trying to get some money off the escorts.

MT: Do you do anything to screen people to make sure they’re not dangerous?

Coxx: I went to Kansas City, Missouri, and I had an outcall — you know, where you go see them. So they end up calling my phone for an outcall, and I didn’t know at the time it was outside Kansas City. So I catch a cab, and it was at an apartment. I went in, and now I remember that the apartment didn’t really look as lived-in. It didn’t have family pictures around. They just basically had a couch, a small TV, the guy had a bed in his room. So you know, I asked for the donation. Then we were in the back room, and he had his story so down-pat — he said the business he was working for had got him an apartment.

As soon as I pulled down my pants, the police bust in. It was a sting. They had the phone call recorded. They took my picture, but they didn’t take me to jail because I wasn’t from there. They took all my money, they took the money that he gave me, and they end up releasing me, telling me to get the hell out of there. That’s when I knew not to go to Shawnee, Missouri, because they do stings there. That was the only time I was busted.

MT: Do you think that prostitution should be legal?

Coxx: Of course. I feel like if that's how a guy wants to spend his money to have a nice time, it's better than being on the streets, with a guy riding around picking up a prostitute, and she's walking around a neighborhood in her fucking miniskirt, boots, and stuff. In certain places, it is legal. In certain parts of Las Vegas, it's legal. It's legal in Amsterdam. In places where it's legal, there's less diseases. It's safer.

But then you got to be careful because there's guys out who target the service. They think escorts make all this cash. Some guys will call your phone and go see you, and beat you and leave out with your purse, too. What are you going to do? Call the police and say, "TS was robbed by a john?" I don't ever call the police for anything. That's the last person I would call.

I cleared my name now, but I had so many disorderly conduct tickets on Woodward. That's what they call it: "disorderly conduct," or "slacking." I have a certain sex appeal about myself. Being in the industry, you have to keep your hair done, and your nails done and stuff like that. I wear extremely long hair, and I wear it blond. I have this aura — I always catch the guys' attention. One time I was in Denver, walking down the street, and I was just trying to go to the CVS to load my card so I could post my ad. I was walking down the street, and you guys, they blow or honk. The guy pulled over and he asked me if I wanted a ride. I was really trying to get a ride — I wasn't talking about sex. There was no deal. Then lo and behold, the police wanted to pull me over. They said I was soliciting. I said I wasn't soliciting, this guy just wanted to give me a ride. Then after they run my name the slacking and prostitution came up, and they just assumed I was prostituting. It's pretty hard. Everyone always thinks I'm always prostituting — which is just not the case.

It's hard to date sometimes, because the guy wants to date you, especially if he started off as your client ... I'm not going to date you for free. Being a prostitute, it's kind of hard to find a guy who will date you. It takes a strong man to be with a woman like me. He has to understand that it's just a job, and that's just what I do.

MT: Are you dating anyone right now?

Coxx: Yes, I have a boyfriend. We've been together for seven years now. We live together, and he understands that it's just a job.

MT: Do you ever want to do anything else?

Coxx: I try to do other things. Last year, I went to school for taxes. Then the new year came around, and I did a couple of taxes things, but it's pretty funny, because once you get in the industry, there's nothing like fast money. You get addicted. I'm not going to go and work in a restaurant for six hours for $100 a day when I can make $100 in 20 minutes. So why would I want to have somebody else be my boss when I can wake up when I want to, go to sleep when I want to, and have my own schedule? My girl friend, she got in a car accident, and the person sued her. She met a guy — in the escort business, she met him, he was one of her clients. She ended up dating him, and he ended up talking her out of prostituting. He told her to get a job. So she stopped working and he tried to distance her from us, the prostitutes. We were her friends. It's pretty odd to me because that's how he met her! Why would you change somebody when you knew who she was? She was doing good. She was working. I guess she was happy. Well, she got in the accident, and they ended up garnishing her checks. She was working at McDonald's, so after they started garnishing her checks there's pretty much nothing. So the next thing you know, she was back prostituting.

I'd rather prostitute than work any other job. It's not like it's just prostitution. You're not always sucking dick or getting fucked. It's not always about sex. Most of the time I talk a lot. I don't mind running my mouth. It's like, hey, if that's how you spend your half-hour, talking to me, you have to give me more cash. You spend your time talking about your problems, well, that's you. A lot of guys just like to come please me. They come massage me or something like that. You're not just having hardcore sex.

Even when I do adult films, it's not how it looks on camera. You're moving in different positions, you're not always banging. They're taking pictures at the same time. It's pretty irritating to me — they want you to move into this position, and make sure you do it like this, so they can get it on camera and get that shot. Then there's cameras on you, and all these people, and it's under the lights, and they're hot. In one of my scenes, I faked it. The guy wasn't even banging me. He wasn't in me at all. He was just banging, and I was just going through motions, saying, "Ah, ah, ah, yes, yes, yes."

MT: What will you do when you can't escort anymore?

Coxx: At the end of it all, I plan on opening my own salon for women to get their hair and nails done.

MT: When you’re prostituting, is it ever hard for you to maintain stamina?

Coxx: Not really. I’m really a sexual person, anyway. I just love sex. I love everything about sex. I love cocks. I love sucking cocks. I enjoy my job. I wouldn’t tell my clients that! But I really enjoy it. I have a lot of attractive guys who I see. I don’t let them know that — I make them think it’s all about the cash, when really I like being with them just as much as they enjoy being with me.

Sometimes it is overwhelming. I don’t know how other people feel, but sometimes it does make me feel like I’m a fuckin’ whore. But then I go get my hair done or my nails done and buy me a nice bag or something and I’ll feel a little better.

MT: What are some of your other hobbies?

Coxx: I enjoy shopping, going out to eat, and traveling. I love Florida the best.

MT: When did you come out as a transsexual?

Coxx: Halloween one year. It was pretty funny how it happened. In the alternative lifestyle, Halloween is the big time of year where you dress like a girl. I was always a gay male. Halloween is the time when everyone wants to dress up like a girl and go all-out. You can get your hair, and your nails, and wear your girl clothes, and no one's going to judge you because, hey, it's Halloween — anything goes. So one year my best friend really wanted to do it. At first I didn't want to do it, but then I was like, "Aw, fuck it." I was doing lashes and eyebrows at the time, so I knew all the girls in the neighborhood. I went to each one of my friends and I got makeup and I got dressed. Then on Halloween, we went to 6 Mile and Woodward, and we started prostituting. We got a couple of dates. I remember I made like $500 in one night. I was like, "Wow! This is pretty nice." Halloween fell on a weekend that year. So I ended up staying dressed up the whole weekend. Then I remember it was Monday, and I had worked on Woodward until five or six in the morning. Then after that, it was school traffic, and kids were going to school and I was still out and it was daytime. And I was walking around, and I started meeting guys. So I just kept going from Halloween, and never turned back.

MT: Do you take hormones?

Coxx: Yes, I go through hormone therapy. I had breast implants. I had silicone injected in my ass. I had my lips done, my face done, stuff like that to alter my appearance. For me, I'm not a dead giveaway. I'm pretty passable. I don't get a lot of stares when I go to places. I use the ladies' restroom. I live my everyday life as a woman.

MT: Is there anything else about being an escort that you think people should know?

Coxx: It's just a way of life. It's sex. Guys love sex. That's a job where you'll never be unemployed. I'll never get laid off, because someone's always going to be horny. It doesn't get slow for me. Christmastime, sometimes businesses get slow. For me, it picks up. When everyone's having a drought, I'm OK because people are going to be horny every day. People are still going to be looking to bust a nut.

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