Metro Times Sex Survey

Metro Times Sex Survey Results

1. What's love got to do with it?

2. How much of your identity is wrapped up in sex? Is it OK not to be sexual in our society?

3. What are you most afraid that a partner might think about you?

5. OK, truthfully, what's the kinkiest thing you've ever done sexually? What won't you do again?

7. How has porn affected you? Has it affected the way you look at the world.

8. Do you consider yourself a good lover? Why? Why not?

9. Do you have something sexual you'd like to say/confess/get off your chest to a past or present lover?

10. What do you know now that you wish you'd known earlier?

Sex

Orientation

Age

Number of times you have sex with partners monthly:

Number of partners monthly:

Number of times you have sex alone monthly:

Name

Not a damn thing!

Just ask my coworkers!

I am not sexy.

Monogamy. Yes, i have been checked.

N/A and nothing.

Yes, I have.

I love porn, it's funny.

Oh yeah, practice!

I am sexual.

Swallow!

Female

100

4-6

Barbie

Very little at all...

No... The one who has the most sex wins. We are only animals and the only reason we are here is to procreate i.e. fuck...

That she has t have it more than four times a day...

I don't... I don't... No

Sex club... fucking in a group... same sex encounter...

there is no such thing... have I ever what?

It showed me things I didn't know were possible... I squint now...

Yes... The girls come, and then they come back..

nope...

anal rocks...

Male

Straight

100

3-4

Tim

Nothing to do with sex; sex can happen without love - I believe they call it lust, fun, fun, fun!

It's OK not to be sexual in our society - but that doesn't work for everyone especially not me

Nothing really.

I get tested, talk at some point before - really just ask, it's not difficult at all...

Drilled by a strap-on from my girl while getting blown by a stranger we just met. (I'd do that again)

Cheating varies, but for me, emotional involvement with a third party - yes I have.

Love porn - hasn't changed how I look at the world, just at my computer...

Yes I am - I take time to please; emotionally, mentally and physically - even if it is just for a one-niter...I love to give woman pleasure.

Nope

There are more woman out there looking for just sex than you think.

Male

Straight

99+

6-8

Let's Get It On

Nothing

Not much; There are lots of ways to be entertainted. It is the prime way of expressign intimacy. It's ok to be sexually inactive.

Ugly

Do my wife.

Anal. S/a

Fucking someone outiside a monogomous relationship yes.

I love porn. It really has taught me a lot about sex. I also find it to be stimulating. I do think it makes me think that women love sex.

Yes; because I am interested in giving as much as getting.

Nothing.

Male

Straight

Nothing.

A lot. Sex is a very imprtant part of my life. Yes it's ok, but please don't preach to me about it.

That I'm too sexually adventurous.

Married. Not an issue.

Male to male oral in front of my wife

Sexual encounters without partner knowledge.

Positively. I'm not addicted, but enjoy it.

Yes. it's more important to me to provide partner satisfaction over my own.

No.

Male

100

nothing

20% of my identity. I think it is okay to not be sexual

crazy

use condoms. i dont. no

just used toys. i am game for anything

going out with someone that is not your wife or girlfriend. yes

has not affected me. no

yes. i always please my mate

how come we did not do that

nothing

Male

Straight

Love is great, but sex is something complete different.

Its perfectly healthy to have a strong libido in society today, but just be careful where and who you stick your whanker.

That I'm too wild to be considered "normal". I still don't think men are truly okay with a woman they respect having too much fun in the sack.

Say it with me Condom! I'm a woman, so no condom, no nookie.

Having sex in a car and getting caught by the police. I won't ever have a one-night stand again.

Cheating is anything physically sexual with another person. Tell Hilary that her hubby did cheat on her, no matter how she wants to slice it.

I think soft porn is pretty mainstream these days. If anyone denies it, then they're just plain prudish.

Yes, but doesn't everybody.

I don't always think about you when we're having sex.

That you can be more powerful by not giving it up quickly when you first start dating somone.

Female

Straight

Margret

I always ask if my partner is clean and I use condoms.

a 3-way.

Having a long-term relatinship and then stepping out with someone else without the significant partern knowing about it. that's cheating.

I love gay porn, its the best thing about the internet because its so readily available.

Definitely! I give the best blow jobs and can deep throat really big cocks which my partners just love.

Yes.

That its okay to be open about my being gay.

Male

Gay

100

Matt

A lot

Yes, it's okay not to be sexual in our society today. It actually may save your life now a days.

Too conservative

IT hasn't, no.

Female

Straight

Absence

LOVE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT, OTHER THAT TELLING YOUR PARTNER THAT YOU LOVE WHAT HE/SHE IS DOING RIGHT NOW!

NO! SEX IS AS IMPORTANT AS BREATHING

THAT I'M A LOUSY LAY

CONDOMS A MUST, TESTING WHENEVER I FEEL LIKE IT.

MY GIRL GIVING IT TO ME WITH A STRAPON, IS THE KINKIEST ORAL SEX WITH A MAN, NEVER AGAIN

CHEATING IS INEVITABLE, WE ARE SEXUAL CREATURES JUST DOING THE ACTIVITY OF SEX. IT GETS BORING EATING THE SAME APPLE PIE EVEYDAY , SO TO SPEAK

SINCE THE INTERNET, PORN IS MORE MAINSTREAM, I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH IT, I THINK EROTICA IS HEALTHY

A BIT ABOVE AVERAGE, PROBABLY DUE TO EXPERIENCE DUE TO MY AGE, IVE TRIED JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING AT LEAST ONCE

I HAVE HAD A BISEXUAL ENCOUNTER

I WISH I KNEW THAT I DIDN'T HAVE TO FEEL SO GUILTY ABOUT SEX

Male

Straight

100

John

There are three levels to intercourse Making Love Having Sex Fucking

It used to be a lot, but as I get older, it is more about pleasing just my partners, not notches on my stilletoes.

That I can't satisfy him. No complaints.

Actually I am positive, and my partners are aware.

Had sex on the 50 yard line @ my college's football stadium. Take a large one in the ass. Hemmoroids aren't worth it.

Having an intimate relationship w/ someone other than my significant other. I am cheating now.

I love porn. I like watching other people having sex.

I am blessed to be a good lover. They always come back.

I would like my significant other to be more eager to step out of his comfort zone.

That I didn't need to sleep w/ so many people to find my self worth.

Female

Straight

150

Wolfpussy

Nothing at all - love does not exist. It is a fantasy that we tell children to sell big fluffy gowns and overprices cake.

Gender is an absolute necessity. Sex, is not. Having sex is taken forg ranted.

That I'm fat.

Condoms are a part of the forplay - always, everytime. Tested for broad range of STIs every 3 months.

the orgy in a hotel room. I would never have sex on the beach again - too much sand

When the other person thinks that the 2, 3 or 4 of you are in a monogomous relationship. No.

It has made me more creative. Not really - I don't go around thinking about everyone I see as sexual.

No - although I've never had any complaints, I have absolutely no self esteem.

Astroglide.

Male

Mic

Love means you'll get on a more regular basis, but trysts are way hotter

I'm pretty sexual, and I think most young people are sexual, but the majority of older people seem to be hung up on sex

I'm too small, and I don't last long enough to get her off, and I'm too old for her

I use condoms, and I get tested once a year at least

Golden shower in the shower, hand cuffs, whips, sex in a cemetary, annilingus....I probably won't try to anal some girl without lube again

Kissing someone else, or more, and yes, I have cheated

Not sure, except I think it got me into rough sex

Sometimes, depends on how long I last. I think communicating, asking her what she likes makes me better

Why do girls (or women) over the age of 25 seem to be such a pain in the ass sexually? Just go with the flow!

Tongue flicking is the best way to get a girl off, and it's better for you in the long run if she gets hers before you get yours

Male

Straight

Joe

Not as much as I thought when I was much younger.

Very little of my identity is outwardly sexual. Sex in our society is often used as measure of success and a gage of self-worth. I didn't get laid last night and I'm not getting laid tonight. I am surprisingly comfortable with my lack of sex appeal.

My girlfriends have been mostly better educated than I am, more productively creative, and far more attractive. I'm afraid that any second they'll find out what a dork I am and the fanboy thing isn't just for comedic effect like in a kevin smith movie or something. I usually don't care what my casual partners think.

I've been tested but not habitually. Condoms are essential to avoid unplanned pregnancy, STD's, and for longevity and performance. I am actually not comfortable without them and they are cheaper than kids so...

I will never understand anal sex... ever.

I never have. I have facilitated an act of cheating which is just as bad.

I haven't enjoyed much porn. I find the naked male figure to be revolting. Furthermore, pornography over-emphasizes dominance in a sexual relationship. I don't enjoy having my ass slapped and I wouldn't do it to you.

I do consider myself a good lover. I think most men don't realize that it is not an act of subservience to make sure your partner is satisfied first. They most surely will make it up to you. The hardest part for me is getting to first base. I'm very comfortable after that.

Past lover... I loved you. Sorry I never told you.

"Be careful who you pretend to be. Because that's who you are." - Kurt Vonnegut

Male

Straight

Mike

Not a lot if you ask me. Love and sex are two completely different things. If either person in a relationship doesn't understand this, it's destined for an explosive ending.

Sure, it's OK not to be sexual, if that's your thing. But don't expect to keep someone in a relationship unless the other person feels the same way. To me, sex is a huge part of the package. If you're not putting out sex, then I'm not putting out my time.

Honestly? Penis size. I'm not huge by any stretch of the imagination, but do like to think I can hold my own. But I also know that my girl has been with hung guys in the past. So it's always in the back of my mind of whether or not she's sizing me up.

I have been tested and try to practice safe sex unless I know the person and we're in agreement otherwise.

I won't toe fuck anyone again. The arch between your big toe and the next toe is kinda sensitive. Putting all that weight down on it doesn't feel too good. Plus, what do I get out of shoving my toe up inside her? The kinkiest thing happened at one of those adult theaters. I was in the backroom watching a porn on the big screen. In walked this couple and they sat in the front row. The girl started going down on him. So I walked up to where they were sitting and started jerking off. Neither of them seemed to mind, so I took care of business and popped my load on her as she was still giving head. I left a happy man.

Sure I have. To be honest, it's kinda a turn-on to cheat. Doing something you're not supposed to be doing is always a taboo. But just cuz I cheat doesn't mean I love my girlfriend any less. It's just sex.

I'm a porn junkie. I have a huge collection. I jerk off to porn about three times a day. Unfortunately, my girl isn't into it as much as I am. I wish I could find a girl who liked nasty porn as much as I do. There's nothing better than jerking off watching a girl getting off while you're both watching porn. I wouldn't say it's affected the way I look at the world. Porn is a get-away to sometimes experience things that you don't get to in real life. Fantasies are always a good thing.

I think so. I try to learn what my partner likes and do my best to get her off first. But, if I get off first, sometimes it's over. So I always try to get her off first or risk leaving her unsatisfied in the end.

When I was young, I had an older woman who was really into me. I stayed with her longer than I wanted to because she bought me nice things. She's probably my one and only sugar momma, so I milked it for all I could.

That women CAN come (squirt) and it's every man's job to make sure to try his damnest to get his girl to do it.

Male

Straight

Chad

Nothing at all. You can have really great sex without love...and vice versa.

I don't think any of my identity is wrapped up in sex. I am not defined by my sexual kinks and am only sexual when I choose to be.

That I may not be open to indulging in his/her fantasies.

I use condomes. I come right out and open the discussion about AIDS. I get tested once a year.

Define kinky. I pobably will not let another partner rub shit on my body so he can eat it off.

Cheating is when you assure someone that you are in an exclusive, monogamus relationship and then have sex with someone else, while still in the relationship. I've cheated more than a few times.

Porn is entertainment and has no affect on the way I view the world.

I consider myself a good lover because I aim to satisfy my sex partner totally and have fun while doing it.

No.

I wish I had known that you do not have to have love, a relationship or even a casual acquaintance with the person you have great sex with.

Male

Keith

Nothin. Actually, the less you love someone, the hotter the sex. But respect is essential.

Yes, you can be non-sexual in this society. You can work for a corporation for 90 hours a week and be a soulless twat. My identity isn't wrapped up in sex, but then, I've never had much of an identity.

That I'm a bad kisser.

Always use a condom. I get tested about once every 8 months.

I've been in a 6-way groping/stroking session with 2 other gay men and 3 dykes. I recommend that everyone do it.

Yes...and I will again. Monogamy is not for me. Though I do inform potential boyfriends of this before things get serious.

Most porn is boring. I hope younger people aren't being influenced by it. I'd hate to think everyone will be as shitty a lay as the guys in porn are.

Yes, because sex is performance, and I think it's bad manners to put on a bad show for an audience. It's all based on the tenets of hospitality, really.

To all potential boyfriends: I am brutally honest, and I want you to be brutally honest, too.

No one gets laid by being a wallflower. I was too shy for too long. Oy, all the ass I could have had.

Male

Gay

35?

90% of the time I have to be in a relationship. But every now an then I just have to unleash the beast.

My idenity is somewhat sexual but not skanky. As far as society No, not completely. But in this day in age people are more open about their sexual desires.

Im pretty confident in that department! LOL!!

Condoms but once in a while I dont use them. That is why I get tested and go to the ob/gyn every 3months.

I had sex with my ex-boyfriends father while my boyfriend watched and masterbated.

Cheating is when you commit oral or intercourse with someone other than your partner. Unless your partner approved!!

Yes. There is some real freaky shit people do that I would not dare do nor could I comprehend how that could turn them on.

Yes. Why? Because I am a animal in the sack and after I do have sex with a guy it takes a police straining order to keep him away!!

No. They are aware of my closet FREAK!

Just because a person is good in bed, does not mean they are right for you.

Female

Straight

Robin

It means a lot more if love is involved. It can be fun otherwise, but doesn't carry any weight. It carries a LOT of weight if there's love behind it.

My personal identity isn't wrapped up in it, but I think our society's more than a little obsessed.

That I'm not creative in bed. (so I work on that, very hard)

Lesbians have a really, really low chance of getting STDs from each other. That said, I have been tested and so has my girlfriend.

One night stand. On both counts.

Intimate contact with someone who's NOT your significant other... I would count kissing (on the lips) among types of cheating. And no, I have never and will never.

It really hasn't affected me personally too much, except to give me some ideas of things to try with the gf. Incidentally, I find lesbian films of this type to be the worst...they're clearly aimed at straight men.

Yes, I do. I'm respectful of what she wants and needs, and can make things fun. "Anyone can be passionate. It takes a real lover to be silly."

"Yep, I'm gay."

See previous answer.

Female

Gay

10+

20+

Bean

A lot. I've been married for 8 years and sex has never been as good as when it's been with my wife even after all these years.

Nope.

Amateur porn at least has shown me that I don't have to have the perfect body or porn star equiptment to have fun.

Male

Straight

Larry

Very little at the base level. Americans have a really hard time remembering that we're animals, and sex is an animal need. With regard to quality, love gives it a powerful twist. But two people can share "passion' without love. It can be anger (have had some of my best sex when I was pissed at my boyfriend) or frustration or just angst in general. Love merely makes it more meaningful, perhaps less "animal," if that's how you want to look at it.

I think more people could use to get laid more often and stop being so uptight. Perhaps they would stop cutting ME off on the freeway and then giving ME the finger! Sex to me is an important element in what completes us (food, water, air, etc.). If you're not into sex in it's most literal element, you're still into it some other way... even old ladies flirt. Sex is the exchange of chemistry beyond "how ya doin," with varying levels of execution, whether it's a smile, wink, phone number or gittin it on.

That my openness and love for social and sexual exchange between males and females (or whatever your thing is) means I'm promiscuous or not faithful. I'm monogamous, but could care less (and even cheer on) people who have no commitment and want to enjoy themselves safely and with common sense. And I hate when my men get jealous because I have a flirtatious personality... trust me or kiss my ass.

If I were not married, I'd use the entire armory of drug store tools to keep me from getting that nasty shit. At this point, I trust that my husband is polite when out of town and got a vasectomy keeping me from having to use a damn condom! (I do admit, they suck.)

A vegetable. And the second answer is the same as the first.

Cheating is sharing a loving relationship where your heart is for no one else, and betraying it with another. I don't think I cheated, though I had sex while married... the marriage was on the outs (and I found out he was doing it, too), and my heart was definitely empty of a mate and up for grabs (pardon the pun).

Porn is like watching Animal Planet, only watching your particular breed and getting a reminder that it's not the worst way to spend the next hour or so. Other than maybe picking up a new technique or two, sex is not a "spectator sport" to me. Americans live through their televisions, watching people out in the world doing things they can't do sitting on their asses. This is the one thing you CAN do sitting on your ass, and not watching somebody else do it. Turn the dvd off and get busy living!

Why yes, I do. Being passionate in life brings out a passion in the bedroom... being manic by nature with a short attention span does the same. And it seems to work out pretty well for the guy.

Not really. Do we have to share EVERYTHING? It's important to keep an identity of my own. I'm faithful, and that's what counts.

Not much in this topic. Otherwise, who doesn't wish that?

Female

Straight

kittylipschitz

Everything.

It's okay, but it would be hard (no pun intended).

She's faking it.

Condoms - Trojan nonlubricated. My partner and I are monogamous, and were both raised in the "Do not have sex, you will get an STD and you WILL die." society - so we were both more than willing to talk about actual implications. I've never been tested, but I don't have an extremely sordid history to dredge through.

So far, the kinkiest thing (sadly) is tying him up and then letting him tie me up (with furry handcuffs, natch). Never again: Breast torture (funny how I don't consider that the kinkiest thing).

Cheating is going outside of an established relationship for physical sex (i.e. oral counts) of any kind. I have never.

It really has, because I'm much more likely to look at it when in a sex shop, and even consider watching it. It does help as a turn-on, but it's not 100% necessary... and it also helps both my partner and I to have a sense of humor about sex. (Anyone who's seen "Pirates" laugh along with me when I say 'Twin Hellfire Cannons')

I'm pretty good, giving, and game. Sometimes, I'm out for my own fun more than his, but it usually works out pretty well. (I also give myself bonus points for not being the bitch that won't let him have his fun if I'm out of commission for a weekend a month, though we do try to plan around that.)

You have a tiny penis. Very very tiny. I do hope that you're happy, but I think that you and your little guy need to crawl back to your previous male lovers and not be such a bastard in life as you are.

Anything I learned from Ask Isadora, Sue Johanson, and Dan Savage.

Female

Straight

Day

Love is not necessary for great sex nor does it amazing encounters. Sometimes

I seem to exude a large amount of sexual energy which often attracts sexually adventurous women, but also may repel more guarded females. No it is expected for you to at least feel some way about sex.

That because I am aggressive in terms of sex that I do not respect them as women.

Condoms during sex. Nothing during oral sex. Try to be as open and direct as possible. Yes I get tested twice a year.

Received oral sex in church. It was my first time and I was 14, but no I would not do it again.

Anything you would never do in front of your significant other. Yes, often and well.

I have learned a lot from erotic literature. It was essentially the same as getting honest, explicit, advice from an older woman in terms of how to please women at the age of 12. Although I did not understand everything, my sub-conscious did.

Yes. I don't know why I am it is probably more so instinct and thoughtfulness. In addition I have really low inhibitions which makes me open for anything almost.

I wish I tried to fuck my ex in the ass. It would have been a great experience for us to share. She was my first love and I wish she was my first in everything.

Girls will tell other girls if you suck.

Male

Straight

Viva LaJet

In my opinion, love has very little to do with sex, although, if you are "in love" with the other party, the sex will be enhanced.

My identity is not defined by sex. However, if you are an adult and not sexual, you need your head examined.

Nothing

Since AIDS is real, I protect myself with condoms. I openly discuss the subject of STD's, with whomever I'm involved. Yes, I get tested every year, despite being married.

I let my previous partner urinate while "riding" me. She initially orgasmed, and from the force of that orgasm, she subsequently released her bladder (which I encouraged).

Cheating is engaging in sexual activity, that your mate is unaware of, and would not condone. However, if you have your partners permission to venture outside of the relationship, then it's not cheating.

Porn has made my wife's life a much easier! Since I have porn, I don't have to soley rely on my wife to please me, thus allowing her to rest peacefully during the nights which she has a "headache"! (LOL)

I consider myself a great lover, but, not because of the traditional "guy" reasons. I'm a great lover because I aim to completely satisfy the female first, before I even consider "getting mine".

I wish my current wife and I had sex earlier in the relationship, therefore, my judgement on our future wouldn't of been clouded by love. (LOL) Note: See question #10.

I wish I'd known how dormant my wife's vagina was, prior to falling in love with her. While dating, she made me wait almost 2 years before we had sex. We eventually had sex, and I realized it was blase', nevertheless, I was already in love with her, and 3 years later we married. At the time, I felt I couldn't break up with her, solely because the "pussy " wasn't good. However, in retrospect, I often question that decision.

Male

Straight

50+

Patience

everything

probably less than the norm among gay men. if it's okay for both partners, then it's fine.

that my girth is more offensive than my sexuality is hot.

monogamous sex

sex on the beach, anywhere in the world

extrarelationship sex or dallying

porn is fun!

i'm ready and willing i want my partner to enjoy himself

i didn't do it.

time goes by too fast. i wish i'd explored more, earlier.

Male

Gay

sveri

Love has alot to do w/ it because it makes the intimacy all the better.

None of my identity is wrapped into sex. It's Ok not to be sexual in our society. However, it depends on the person.

I'm not afraid of anything that my partner may think of me because we're open to sex.

My partner and I have been together for almost six years so, we're comfortable enough to have raw sex.

I've used sex toys on my partner anally. Yes, I would definitely do it again.

Cheating is when your partner doesn't know you're entangled in another relationship (sexually or emotionally).

Porn has affected me at all. In fact my partner and I enjoy watching it and learning a thing or two.

Yes, I consider myself a damn good lover. I cater to my partner's needs and put 'em to sleep. Rock 'a' bye baby!

I've said all I need to say to both my past and present lovers.

I wish that I would've known that my first was bi-sexual.

Female

Straight

30+

20+

Brandi

everything and nothing

very little. yes.

homosexuality

condoms. humor. no.

oral sex with a stripper. hell no.

sex outside marraige. no.

opened my eyes. somewhat.

yes. she was unconscious by the end.

alcohol does not make you a better lover.

Male

Straight

Paco

Not necessarily anything. There's nothing like raw carnal sex and not even knowing if the name the chick gave you was a real one. Man I miss being stationed in San Diego.

It's ok not to be sexual. I say do what you need to do. As far as my identity it's not noticably wrapped in sex to the layman, but once you get me behind closed doors, almost anything is game.

I'm a little too freaky or too vanilla. I like vanilla sex, but I also like to break out the BDSM gear. I'm not a lifestyle person, just a dabbler, but I do carry a dragon's tongue in my car because you never know when some fetish action will take place.

I don't have enough sexual partners to really worry about that. I do get tested every time I do have sex though.

Well, I was fingering one chick while I was banging another. That's about it unless you count the BDSM stuff, like spankings and asphyixiation. As for what I won't do again, I'll never go down on a guy again. I tried it to see if I was attracted to men or if I just found certain men attractive. I realized after he came that I have enough problems dealing with my own penis that I don't need to bring another one into the mix.

Yeah, again San Diego. My now ex fiancee was living in Lansing while I was stationed there. I couldn't help myself, there was just so much ass.

Not really. To be honest I don't really look at porn. I mean why look unless you can touch.

I'm not too bad. If a partner puts in as much effort as I do it makes me want to try harder, but if they're a dead fish I just want to get my rocks off and go.

Nope. I've been pretty open with them.

Most girls want to be treated like porn stars behind closed doors.

Male

Straight

Percifal

Love means that you know your partner more intimately than just a one-night stand. When you love someone, the turn-on is not just physical but mental as well.

We are fundamentally sexual beings, so it is hard to ignore what we are. We may go about our business on a daily basis, doing our jobs, grocery shopping, etc., but that sex drive is always present. No one can ignore the fact that when you first meet someone, the initial impression is the gender of the person.

My life is an open book to my lover. I won't lie to them about anything. I figure if they are going to love me, then they should know all the things about me. That way they don't waste their time if I am not the right person for them.

Condoms all the way. NOT talking about protection from STD's with your partner(s) is a real mood-kill. If someone I am dating won't use a condom, I won't date them. Yes, I have been tested & will be tested again in the future.

Kinkiest thing I have ever done? I don't smack & tell, LOL. But I will say this: I was a Dominatrix for 2 yrs. but retired from it because there were times when the hours were not stable. When you are a Domina, you like to have control over your life/situations. Sometimes you just don't feel like dressing up in 6" heels & a corset! I think people have a vision in their minds that Dominas are always running around the house in heels/corset. We are real people too, and sometimes we just like to have a day to sit around in sweat pants. Now I just prefer to use my kink with my partner so I can concentrate all my efforts on him.

Cheating is physically having sex (oral included) with another person. I will admit I cheated one time & felt really guilty about it so I never did it again.

I'm not a big fan of buying Porn, probably because at one time I lived in an Adult Entertainment world so it was my job. I have no regrets about Dominating professionally, and it actually opened my eyes to the "behind the scenes" aspect which is something not everyone got to see. I'll admit that being worshiped by someone felt really good because you feel really important. Even though I don't have that aspect in my life anymore, I have a deep appreciation for people in my life who go out of the way to do something for me, kink or not. I don't take any of it for granted because I realize that they are CHOOSING to help me & that they could be off doing something else. I'm very touched by that.

I would consider myself to be a good lover because I am not afraid to communicate with my lover. I think a lot of the reason Dominas have jobs is because there are a lot of people out there who feel that they can't share their fetishes with their lovers. There is so much more to sex than penetration & the mental stimulation aspect is often overlooked. If someone can get inside your head, they can lead you into a whole new arena of physical/emotional possibilities. That can be a real turn-on.

I have no regrets. I just wish them well.

Nothing. I think my life played out the way it needed to. I'm very happy with how things are now. Again, no regrets.

Female

Straight

Former Domina K

Nada. Sex has a life force of its own. Hell, sex is the life force manifest to action. Emotions can enhance that, but "love" more often than not justs screws it up.

Some. But a great deal of my sexual identity is wrapped up in sex. And there is more than a little of my sexual identity wrapped up in my identity, so.....

Just because its easy, doesn't mean its free.

Monogamy and testing. Safe sexual behaviour trumps safe sex. Sooner of later the condoms come off. This attitude has a tendancy to keep a poor performer in the game much longer than they deserve, but oh well.

Straight sex in a tree.

Sex outside of the relationship of record and yes.

It has been illuminating. It has validated urges and fetishes that were....earlier, troubling.

Oh yes. Will go to the mat to please.

Yeah. You have evolved wonderfully as a person and a woman. You have grown amazingly in your complexity and depth of character. You have fought your demons and have laid waste to old constrictions empowering yourself to a universe of possibilities! Sexually you are a dim flicker of a once blazing star. I liked you better before.

Monogamy destroys the motivating force of competition. Monogamy equals monopoly.

Male

Straight

6-8

Steve

makes sex more enjoyable at times. sometimes it complicates things more than its worth though.

my identity is not wrapped up in sex. if you are not sexual, people look at you as if there is a problem with you. some people dont feel sex is as important as other things in life.

that i am unattractive and they only have sex with me out of pity

I use condoms and communicate about std's with my partner. I bring this up when we are talking about sex. I get tested yearly with my exam.

Sex in public. Haven't done anything I wont try again.

Cheating is when you break boundaries you and your partner have established. This could be more than just sexual cheating. I have cheated on one partner.

Porn is hot. It affects the way I see other people because not every one is open minded like me. Some people see porn as bad because people are exposing themselves. I say if you got it, flaunt it if you feel comfortable enough to do so.

I do consider myself a good lover because I am not a selfish lover. I make sure I give my partner pleasure, sometimes before I recieve pleasture. It's not all about me, its about him too.

Ya, that one of them was really lousy and I dont see how his current gf can have sex with him.

I wish I had known more about HPV when I first became sexually active. Not much was known back then, not much is known now. More facts need to be told about HPV and more research needs to be done to figure this disease out.

Female

Straight

1-2

4-Feb

Sasha

Nothing...Never has. People need to get off of the love tip, and just get off!

Coming from Detroit (I live in the Washington DC Metro Area now) I was a little uptight about being sexual. MI is actually pretty uptight compared to other places I have been. I think it is because of all the churches. I think that women get a bad rap for being sexual (they shouldn't). Even men are dogs about it. They put down the sexually liberated chic and marry a nice church girl, only to cheat on the nice church girl with the sexually liberated one..Go figure!

That I am a whore (he knows I'm a freak...I think). I want to do a threesome...maybe a foursome...

Before we did anything, we both talked about our status. What we were looking for and expecting in having a sexual relationship (monogamous, SRS partner - Stress Relieving Sex, etc). Once we got through all that crap, we went to the local health department and got a comprehensive screening. We talked about past STD's and sat with a counselor to discuss how to best protect ourselves from them in the future. This was the first person that ever followed through with this with me, and I love him for it.

My old boyfriend and I were coming from Meadow Brook after a concert...traffic was too congested, so I decided to blow him...we ended up pulling over having sex in the car on the side of the express way...It was a great way to kill time while the traffic thinned out. I won't do anything in park or public restroom...

I think cheating is anything that your partner isn't aware of...It can be oral. I am pretty liberal...as long as you use protection and don't kiss...I don't get into all the ownership thing, though I think most of my partners have been pretty selfish with sharing.

I love porn...It hasn't affected the way I look at the world, other than wondering if my old preacher had a big collection, and wondering what kind of porn our politicians get off on. I think porn has liberated me, and given actually lowered a lot of hangups I have had in the past. I am also lucky because I get to work with porn in my current job. I actually don't look at it that much now (go figure)...I suppose it is like a doctor, seen one dick, seen them all...

I am a good lover, because I am open to trying new things. I am a pleaser, and I like to ask a lot of, "Do you like this" questions. I try to be in tune with my partner, and I like adapt to their thing...as long as they adapt to mine, which I have no problem telling a person to do this or do that...

I would like to say to Clint, that you were the best lover I ever had! I hate that it took me experiences after you, to come to this realization. I fantasize about you still. You were awesome, and I screwed it up. If only I could get you again, with what I know now. Didn't understand that sex is much better with a good partner that you actually love...I only ever loved you.

That everything that looks good ain't good for you. And sometimes, it ain't about the size. Some of the biggest dudes I have been with, have been the most awful sex partners...selfish, lazy, brutal, and have you ever gotten a squishy - oversexed! Ain't nothin worse than a big piece of meat that is too tired to stand at attention!

Male

Gay

Wallace

Sex is a wonderful thing but when there is love - it is a celestrial experience.

sex is an important part of my identy,but certaninly there are other parts of equal importance i.e compassion. In this society it sex is what sells just about anything. So, the choice tonot be sexual would be a difficult one.

Insensitivity

Getting tested and sharing the results with each other indicates that the partner is ready for intimacy with me. I approach the subject directly and early in the relationship. Yes, I test.

Had sex on a ride at disneyland. What wouldn't I do again - nothing.

Cheating is when there is an understanding of fidelity between partners. Yes, I have cheated.

Porn is quite liberating and stimulating as well. Yes, porn has brought support to my way of looking at sex - anything goes - except harmful acts.

Yes, I consider my self a good lover because I really get in toomy partner before we have sex. Then sex is special.

No.

That what happens between two adults is just fine!

Female

Straight

Marie

A lot. Love makes it all feel much better.

Some, and now, your sexual interest don't have to be shared. What is the ol' saying men want a Woman on the streets and a freak in the sheets.

Sex is supposed to be fun. I don't think about what he is going to think of me. If he is busy thinking anything other than about what we are doing, he is really missing out.

Condom....(I am married, so I am hoping this is a non-issue.

It depends on what is considered kinky. Sex in the bathroom on an airplane, anal....I would do everything I have done again and again.

Phone sex, interenet sex is all cheating and yes, I have cheated in the past and never will again.

I love porn. It helps spice things up sometimes. I would never be in a porn, but watching and re-inacting with my husband is always fun.

Yes- because my husband said so. Because I make love with him with passion.

Yes- my ex-husband needs to get a clue. I faked it the whole 10 years.

I wish I knew sooner what true love felt like.

Female

Straight

Everything when you get a bit older. Not much when you're young and everything turns you on.

Not much.

I'm boring.

Monogomous, so not anymore, but yes before the wedding.

Peanut butter and a virgin 5 years younger than me, with friends watching me deflower. Won't ever do that again.

Exchanging body fluids especially if it includes an emotional connectedness.

I think a lot of porn is just sad. Disconnecting the best part of sex from it all. Eroticism is way more interesting.

Not really. Too tired after the baby. Less functional in my 40s for quick fun, and it has to be planned.

Nope.

Just how dry a woman in her 40s can be. No fun.

Female

Straight

5-6

Boring mom

Can make it more comfortable and intimate rather than rough and risky!

Sexual innuendoes are non stop between my friends and I. It's ok to not be sexual in our society but it's not ok to try and force others to follow your lead.

This chicks hygene needs work.

Condoms ALWAYS!!! Get tested before anything happens. No test, no sex, simple as that!

Making out with someone else or doing anything sexual, not just the actual act. Never, I see no point in cheating since if you're that tempted by others you're most likely not that into your current partner and should just break up.

It hasn't affected me... It's a good way to waste time and have a good laugh though. I still see the world the same, porn is someones job, just like someone else is a waitress.

I'd hope so just because I'm open to new things and I'm not shy to talk about it either.

nope

Female

Straight

Liza

Very little if all you want is sexual release. Quite a lot if you are seeking a stable or permanent relationship.

Being gay, most people assume it is all about sex. Far from the truth, I rarely consider sex an important part of my identity. If I wasn't single, I might have a different point of view. I think being non-sexual is an excuse for some people, like those who claim to be cured of being gay. For teenagers celibacy can be a very smart choice.

That I am not good in bed because I don't have the body of a greek god.

If my partner doesn't raise the issue, sometimes I won't use protection. Usually a condom comes out, and it is a non-issue. Since I occasionally have bareback sex, I get tested regularly.

Pushing my arm deep into a guy's ass when he didn't douche before. It got quite messy, and scat is pretty disgusting.

My experince with relationships has never been longer than a couple of months, so cheating has never been an issue. The relationship died because of other reasons.

The only thing porn has done is to show me some kinky stuff I haven't thought of on my own.

I think so. I kind of play around with a guy until a get a reaction from him. Then I know whether it is something he likes or not. When he is gasping and groaning I assume things are going well.

No. The one woman I had a relationship with has known for years that I am gay. I told her that was the reason we broke up.

Everything! I was afraid of sex until my late 30s. Now I am much more confortable in my own skin.

Male

Gay

100

Not much. It's better when you're in love.....but not a necessity to have a great experience.

I am consumed by sexual thoughts and fantasizing. It is OK not to be sexual.....but how boring is that.

That I was not a good lover.

Married and committed to one partner. Do not get tested.

Had sex in public in front of strangers at Hedo 3 Resort in Jamaica.

Anything that you would not want your partner to find out about (includes on-line chatting, etc.)

I love great porn. Porn opens your eyes to what others find enjoyable even if you personally find it disgusting.

Good....yes. Great.....no. I'd like to fuck like a porn star but I rarely last that long or enjoy that many positions in one session.

Sorry about that whiskey dick that night long ago.

How hot Asian girls are!!!

Male

Straight

Bucknaked

nothing

around 40 percent it would be higher if we lived in a more acceptable society. no its not OK

too closed minded

I have ALWAYS used condoms. I would have sex without one. yes

its hard to define kinky, things I think are kinky people look at me like I am insane. what exactly is kinky? orgies,food, strange public places, animals? I have done a little of all of that. I wont do any type of beads.

what?? never heard of it

porn has affected me greatly.after some of the things I have you expect that your partner would be down with it also

yes doesnt everyone? I please my partner before indulging myself

no I treat everytime as if it is my last so what they got is all I had to give

sex is safer than I thought

Male

Straight

thomas

something. there's size, there's fit, there's heat, there's a lot that doesn't need love. but love can add to the x factor, and love can allow for types of sex that wouldn't exist otherwise.

its okay not to have sex, but all of life is sex and pleasure. celebrate your pleasure, respect the subtlety of sex.

smelly

condoms and steady relationships, yes, not often

spanking, finger in the butt. once i had anal sex, i wouldn't do it again. I'm female, the whole time it just felt like the wrong hole.

sex with someone else when you have a monogamy agreement. sex with someone who's married. yes and yes.

not that into it, hasn't really affected me. i know its a multi billion dollar industry.

Yes! I'm fantastic. I'm horny, sensual, and I'm very tender and caring. I pay attention. I love penises. I love my body. i'm flexible.

do you ever get tears in your eyes? whats up with that? you're not happy, you're not sad, it just feels really good and all the sudden your eyes aren't dry. thats a new thing. whats that about.

Sex gets better. It is very different with different people, find someone who its amazing with.

Female

Straight

sweetie

Love makes it special. Otherwise, it is just known as "f******" and desire rules! Making love is much better than just getting one's rocks off.

50%.

That I am a freak who likes it all and can do it all!!

Condoms! If I have second thoughts about someone, I don't pursue them. Hubby and I do it together (play), and if a person has no special person in their live or too many partners -- we don't play with them.

Threesomes, foursomes, watched my husband, he watched me with others, Anal, outdoor sex, toys, but not a gang bang of all men or all women!

Not being honest about your desires or not playing with your spouse/significant other. If the spouse does not want to do it, you have to let that desire go!

I like some porn, but it gets boring after a while. One has to step away from it to appreciate it. Swedish Porn and European porn are the best because they have a great story line -- be it couples, meeting in the park/bar, or orgies!!

Yes, I like to please and see my spouse or lover come (intensely!!). I have an oral fetish, and so it is easy to please. I am not so good at sharing myself (letting someone please me) because I am very picky (smells, licking it right, touching).

Yes, if more people got tested and were honest to their spouse/other that they wanted to play -- sex would be a lot more fun. We have to adopt the attitude like Europeans!

To be more choosy! Too much time wasted on people who were selfish and bad, bad lovers!!

Female

1-2

Honey

I don't know ... you tell me.

It's like the movie "The Matrix": there are "two worlds."

Too freaky.

Just try and do what's safe -- most of the time.

Mmmmmmm.

Duh.

Porn is fantasy.

A 22-year-old man's asshole can taste very sweet.

Male

Gay

???

Rouge

Alot

yes, fornicating wouldn't be happening as much

that i have aids

i use a condom, an simply ask my partner if they have any thing!!!and yes i get tested, beacuse a condom is not garrenteed

i had sex in a library full of people

yes...and it was fun to

yes, people are freaks, we all are goin to hell!!!

yes, i never had any complaints, just ahhhhs and ohhhs

yes, Angie i had sex with your brothers girlfriend

older women are the greatest, they pamper you, and teaches you everything you dont know about sex!!!

Male

Straight

Donell

it makes the experience more satisfying because you know the other person is not judging you.

most of it. I consider my self a very sexual person. I think it is looked down up in our society due to that fact of the pas of this country. You have to remember that United States were founded by Quakers and other Christains

Nothing. I really don't care enough about that person or what they may think especially if it is just a fling. In that case I am out for my self.

Condoms. Never needed to even ask, just make it practice and slip it on. so far have not needed to.

Girl had me do a reverse Doggy style she wanted to rub her Clit on my prostate area. It was awesome to hear her orgasm over and over. Would I do it again. Yes, especially if that is what she wants.

Cheating. Is when you are in a serious relationship and you go and screw around behind your "Partners" back. Yes I have but that was because I was looking for a way out of a relationship. I was with this girl too long and I wanted something new.

I would say that It has made me realize how we as a society seem to enjoy degrading our selfs in the name of pleasure or even stardom.

Yes. I consider my self as such because listen to the woman and what she wants. Most women will tell you that I have never failed to please. I have a motto a gentleman allows a women to climax 3 times first before he even considers it for him self.

As a child I had several sexual encounters with other male children. I confess at the time we had no idea what we were doing and that I was considered wrong. I still to this day have never told anyone except my wife.

that If i had saved all my money from my jobs as a kid and invested it I would not have to be working now.

Male

Straight

Not all sex requires love, obviously, but in my experience the best sex is definitely with someone you love and who knows you, your preferences, and your body.

My identity only becomes wrapped up in sex when I'm making myself available to someone. Otherwise it's really just a periphery aspect of who I am. It's okay for someone to not be sexual in our society, although I doubt this is the mainstream view. I've known people who were extremely asexual and got along just fine, but admittedly when that person wasn't around the conversation would occasionally turn to an examination of their sexual identity.

It is extremely important that a partner have full trust in me. If they were to think of me as untrustworthy, the entire foundation of the relationship becomes jeopardized.

Admittedly I haven't always been careful with sexual partners. In brief, some partners I've asked flat out that they be tested, and others I almost didn't want to know about their sexual past. In my current relationship, however, it was such an important undertaking for her and I that we wanted to make sure all the bases were covered before we started going to bases ourselves. You should be able to do this very openly and honestly, because if the person makes you apprehensive to even ask whether they're clean, you probably shouldn't be fucking them in the first place.

I consider myself pretty vanilla, but I've tried anal sex, been handcuffed and spanked, blindfolded with nipple clamps, and a few other things that might be considered kinkier than normal.

I've never cheated on a partner. If ever I thought I might be tempted, I either confronted my significant other to let them know I was bailing out of the relationship to pursue what I felt was more meaningful, or I simply suppressed the urge until it subsided and continued with my partner. Cheating for me is any physical or emotional investment you make in someone outside of your partner. "Emotional" may seem like a broad term here, but really it's just meant to define a situation where my partner somehow reinvests themselves in someone else, because inevitably that will lead them breaking up with me (most likely) to pursue that new interest - so why waste my time? If I were to even catch my partner holding hands with another guy, it's over because they have obviously taken the first step in detaching themselves from our relationship.

Pornography is wonderful, and it's a great way to escape for a few minutes (or twenty). Because I'm able to separate fantasy from reality, it hasn't affected me drastically in my day-to-day life, but every so often it's wonderful to blur that line through some adventurous, kinky sex with a partner.

I think I'm attentive to the needs of my partner for the most part, but I'm guessing I'm pretty basic. Although I haven't had complaints, my guess is I'm not the best but I'm not the worst. If you did a random sample of the population with great lovers on the right and shitty lovers on the left, my name would be right in the fucking middle.

I think I might have a foot fetish but I know you find it disgusting so I'll keep it to myself until a later date.

I wish I hadn't doubted my ability to last longer in bed when I was younger. For some reason I just expected to have an orgasm immediately but have realized that with a little concentration I can overcome that urge.

Male

Straight

20+

Chris

Men love to get sex. Women have sex to get love. Mostly.

It's perfectly all right with me to not be sexual. Many times, sex causes too many problems anyway.

That he's not satisfying me.

Condoms, condoms, condoms. And yes, it's a must-have conversation. Testing should be as routine as a yearly CBC.

Not big into kink. I've done most of the usual stuff: toys, odd places, odd positions.

Cheating can be physical or emotional, and it means that your body or emotions have been given over to someone other than the one you're committed to. I have, and I don't feel good about it at all.

Porn hasn't effected me much, but it makes me wonder if anything is sacred anymore.

Yeah, I do because I'm not only about my own pleasure I'm about his, too.

Nope. No regrets. The past is the past and what's done is done. No sense in hurting anyone just to clear my conscience.

I wish I knew how much sex would screw me up mentally sooner. Then I would have waited a little longer before I started having it.

Female

Straight

Reanne

everything. and nothing.

less than half, i think, but it's hard to say. i find it is particularly difficult to trust and respect a person when you are busy considering that person's sexual attributes. difficult, but not impossible. i think it is very hard for people in our society to honestly look at a person without considering things like gender, sex, orientation, attractiveness, intimidation. read "the left hand of darkness" by ursula leguin.

that i am boring, unattractive, uninteresting, the usual.

the subject usually comes up after making out has reached the point where clothes are coming off. i try to be as point-blank as possible, leaving little room for confusion. sometimes i will offer my information first, just to make the person feel more comfortable. i get tested about once a year.

i like being choked, and choking my partner. i've let my partner's hit me, tie me up, verbally and physically abuse me. I have also done the same to others. despite all this, the worst sex i ever had was with a very experienced dominatrix who made me feel entirely uncomfortable and unsafe, and ruined BDSM for me for several years. i will never forget to pee after sex with men. they are dirty, dirty, dirty, and i can't stand any more UTI's.

cheating is whatever you and your partner decide it is. if you haven't discussed it, or don't agree, then you are either naive or incompatible.

porn has made me wonder at the true level of human, especially male, depravity more times than i'd like to recall. i've seen men do the Most Disgusting Things all in the name of getting off. porn is just one piece of that narly pie.

I think I am capable of being a good lover. I don't think I always am. Why? Because sometimes you just gotta sleep, man.

No.

That I have the herp.

Female

Otter

now? everything. but 10 yrs ago any port in a storm would do nicley, and I do mean any

maybe 33% well maybe higher depending if I wanna get into yer knickers. yes it's ok to be non sexual

that I'm a lousy lay and selfesh

tests for both of us and NO sex between testing and resualts

i'm not into group sex anymore but i never really saw that as kinky. i just want to devote all my attention to one person now

if you say your not gonna fuck anybody else and you do that's cheating. I have never cheated as I never made that promise

no and no

i try to be the best that i can. i want my partner to climax or at least feel bliss while with me

no. we both came clean before we ever got it on

nothing. i can honestly say that i have no regrets about anything i've ever done

Male

Straight

stan

love is like the icing on the cake. sex is great but love is that secret ingredient that makes it amazing.

i love to dress sexy, show skin, and get all dressed up. i've worked as a hot girl and a go go dancer. but when it comes to talking about it i don't. i still get alittle shy. i think that people think that if a girl isnt sexy that she isn't sexual when they could just be undercover freaks.

that im too experienced or too dull

well im only sleeping with one person and since im not on birth control we use condoms. i gte tested when i get my physical. and we talked about protection before we had sex. waiting until the last second when your in the moment can mess up the fun of it when you have to stop to talk

i tried bdsm a few times. it wasnt for me i dont feel sexy tied up and get hit with shit and degraded. and i wouldn't do it again

anything that you are uncomfortable telling your partner or doing in front of them. and i had a male friend that i kissed, but i told my ex.

it doesn't affect me, i don't watch it. i think its funny when guys think everyday girls are supposed to at like porn stars

i think so. i've been told so a lot. im a pleaser so i like making my partner happy.

i've always dated tall guys thinking that a short guy could NEVER please me but i was wrong. my boyfriend is 5'3" and im 5'5" and i swear think that everytime it gets better and better. so ladies show short guys some love. plus compared to them you can think of yourself as a sex amazon, lmao

umm... to enjoy myself, relax, and have fun.

Female

Straight

15+

Whisper

Everything (almost)

We are not asexual creatures, either physically or socially. Even if your sexuality isn't overt, it exists.

???

long term monogamous is best

You'll need to narrow that down. Partners, combinations of partners, things, places, what?

cheating is having a physical or emotional relationship outside of ones current commitment. if you can't tell the other person what you just did, you were cheating. Yes.

Yes, it's taken the misty lens off of the sex act. That has made it far uglier, but also more real.

Yes. I like sex.

"We should of gone bowling." "Don't worry I hear that happens to lots of guys."

That's sex is neither the beginning nor the end of the world, nor even of a good relationship.

Female

Straight

40+

20+

CityKitty

Don't as me, ask His Honor!!!

Love and sex should never be confused. Many people can't tell one from the other, and they are in for a world of hurt. Sex can be awesome with or without love, athough it takes on a unique and intense beauty when shared between two (or more) people who are deeply in love.

Sex is one of the neccesities of life. along with food, air and water I'd say it's the nicest of the staples of existence! I think it's ok not to be sexual for a time, but eventually nature will take over and you should not deny you baser instincts or you'll suffer for it later.

Probably that I'm only interested in sex. Don't get me wrong, I REALLY like sex - ALOT - but I'm also interested in intellect too, especially where one's knowedge of sex is concerned!

I've been in a monogamous relationship for quite a while now so I haven't used a condom in a pretty long time. I would sometimes casually ask if she had any health issues, but usually I'd just wear a condom anyway. I've been tested 3 times and never really gave it much thought, it just had to be done. (I used to be pretty promiscuous back when I played out alot as a local musician)

All that comes to mind right now is my stripper ex-girlfriend fucking me in the ass with a pickle while jerking me off... ah memories! I've never really been into sex in a car. That's not to say I'd never do it again, but usually it's just too cramped and uncomfortable. Get a room, you know?

Cheating implies that you are in a supposed monogamous relationship and going outside that relationship for pure sexual release, and the answer to your question is yes. (Not with my current girlfreind, but I did in the past)

Porn has made it easy to remain faithful to my lover because I can get myself off without having to look outside the relationship for stimulation. I'd say porn has improved the way I see people sexually. Since the emergence of the digital age anyone can make thier own porno movie and many have. I guess it's made me see that sexuality is something that should be freely expressed for good mental health!

I consider myself a good lover because I am extremely interested in watching my lover cum, my biggest turn on is probably the explosive intensity of the female orgasm! I'm willing to learn exactly what makes her motor hum and kick it into overdrive! I know it's kinda cliche' but I really think the best sex organ in the body is the brain!

Not to anyone in particular. Just that you've all been good in your own way, even when you were really bad at it I learned from the experience so it wasn't a total loss! Oh - there was that one nasty bitch that gave me crotch crickets - ARGH, what a nightmare!!!

That there's alot more to sex than my own pleasure. A whole new world opened up when I realized that what you give is what you get, and if you give it good you'll get it back TENFOLD!!!

Male

Straight

50+

2-3

Studgardt

Love is that added bonus of making sex feel good on the inside and the outside.

My identity is all about sex. I love to study sex and I enjoy having it now and again. I don't think that anyone has to be sexual. I think that the most important thing in life is happiness; how you get there isn't important so long as your not mean.

That they'll look at me and see a wrong gender.

Safer sex is cool! I'm good about talking about it, and I used condoms and clean shared sex toys. I don't use protection for oral-vaginal sex because dental dams suck. It's sad, but true. They are a bitch to use and you can't feel much of anything through them. It's always hard for me to admit that because being a safer sex advocate is such a big part of my identity. I suppose having conversations about previous sexual activity and being tested with partners before having sex is my primary risk reduction method.

As of now, only tying someone up, spanking and anal. I need to find a good bottom.

I don't do monogamy. Maybe I will at some point, but I def can't see doing it anytime soon. I like it when people I'm involved with tell me about other people they're involved with.

I have friends who write porn. I support porn that's made in a fair and sex-positive way that isn't degrading to women. I have a friend who writes some pretty good porn.

I'm good at sex. I'm an attentive and nurturing top who can be mean when it's called for. I'm not good at relationships. I don't have the time to devote to one at this point in my life, nor do I want to make any major commitment to anyone at this point. I think that's ok so long as no one is mislead.

I'm not in love with you.

Sex isn't scary.

Transgender

Dieter

Nothing

10%, no

not afraid

condoms,

sex on a public beach, NA

Yes, Yes

no affect, no

yes, considerate of the other persons needs and wants.

you bore the living day lights out of me

never get married

Male

Straight

not much

maybe

not good

dont

golden showers,groups

yes

opened me to new ideas

yes work at it and open minded

yes

dont have to ever get married to have sex

Male

2-3

10-

ray

some or nothing

lots, people seem to think not being sexual is OK, married women with kids....

I'm freaky

monogamous

hot wax, hot wax

cheating is any interaction that involves physical emotional/sexual activity

love it, helps move things along faster alone or together

not lately, boring, not feeling good about weight

not on your life

more women use dildos than I thought

Female

Straight

Mar

For me, a lot. The more love and trust there is the more open, honest and enjoyable the sex. It's never been that great otherwise- despite what the movies tell me.

Not as much as there used to be, and I'm glad. Being sexual or not, is a double edged sword in our society. Society wants its children and teens to be naive and pure, adventurous and sexualized all at once. It encourages monogamy, but expects infidelity- and if you're a virgin at age 40, it ridicules you summer blockbuster style.

That they don't need to respect me

Choosing the partners carefully. Asking about their histories, after deciding whether I trust them about more mundane factors. Asking blunt questions like, "So, ever had a STD?" I've been in a monogamus relationship for

Oh, isn't it better to imagine? Getting busted on local news for "Porn in the Park" has got to be up there...

Cheating is going past the acceptable boundaries set by both partners. Yes.

It's not for me. I think the most serious effect it's had for me was making me feel like I had to compete with professionals at the age of 15. It also gave me a skewed look at the world, telling me all men value is sex and loose morals, not good foundations. It does not help that most porn and adult entertainment is all directed at the male viewer, or menopausal women.

Yes. I am attentive, adventurous, and attractive. I'm also in touch with my own sexuality and willing to give and take to make everyone happy.

Nothing I haven't already said to that person.

That LTR #1 and #2 were doomed to fail, then I could have cut out early and had more fun...

Female

Straight

Celeste

Nothing if you are just out for a good time. But once you get past that, and find someone you truly love and connect with? Well, that's a whole different story..

It changes with time. I used to think that sex had to be a big part of my identity, but I have learned to mellow, and not take it all so seriously.

That I am too fat to be good.

We talked about it in the beginning and continue to do so. We also used a condom until we had been together, exclusively for 9 months, and been tested again after that time period. Now we use a different birth control method and it has deepend our relationship.

Had a random guy at a Hellbound suck on my feet. What I won't do again, is give him my phone number after.

I have never. But cheating is actively pursuing and being with another person, when you have told the person you are with you will not. It's pretty cut and dry for me.

No - but I love porn.

Yes. I am giving, willing to try just about anything, and forgiving if it isn't "exactly right". Sometime people just have an off day/night/experience.

I faked every single time I was with the two of you (yeah, ALL that time) and I don't have to with him.

That sex does not spell love and stability. It's JUST sex.

Female

Straight

Elizabeth

Love can be one thing that makes sex an adventure (when you're in love with a partner, you may put yourself out there emotionally, which can be exciting), and there are probably some really intense sexual experiences that are sparked by love... but you can have some great sex anonymously or casually, with or without romantic "love." A minimum level of respect for your partner as a person is usually required.

My sexual identity is a big part of who I am and who I want to be, an important part of how I live my life. As far as whether it's ok NOT to be sexual... I'd say that would actually be a challenge in our society... but also just because humans are wired for sex, it's a part of our lives. However, there's definitely something to be said for sex (and one's sexual identity) being personal and authentic-- not a facsimile of what "society" tells us is sexy.

That I'm boring, in bed or otherwise; that I don't have passion, vision, etc. in my life.

If i have sex with men, I use condoms. Only in a consensual monogamous situation would I agree to sex without condoms. I broach the subject by not taking the situation past a certain point without insisting on putting on a condom. If I am dating more than one person, I am honest with each other them about current sexual activities, so people can make informed decisions about risk.

Kinkiest= urinating between my (female) partner's legs... or maybe licking my partner's anus... or maybe that 6some... or maybe the kinkiest thing was watching two friends have sex but not being able to join in... hard to decide! What wouldn't I do again? not much. I'm less interested in having sex in public than I once was, so I'd be less likely to do it in front of others again.

Cheating depends on the mutual agreement, implied or otherwise, that you have with a certain partner...

I do consider myself a good lover... I make sex a priority in a relationship (not necessarily TOP priority, but it IS important). I'm a good listener and enjoy talking about sex and trying new things. I'm very open and non-judgmental about my partner's likes and dislikes, and fantasies. I like to share my own, and even though it requires going out on a limb sometimes (and it can be exciting to be vulnerable and share things with your partner!), I try to be honest about what I like and want in bed.

Don't get lust/sex confused with love/relationship-- sex and attraction are just that and they don't always warrant getting into (and having trouble getting out of) a serious or long-term relationship.

Female

Gay

25+

Nicole

A lot, but not everything.

1)Not a whole lot. 2) Yes.

She does not find me physically attractive.

1) Stay married and don't cheat. 2) Don't need to. 3) No.

1) Came in my woman's mouth and then helped her eat it (she did not swallow and I kissed her; we then proceeded to share the cum together.) 2) Jump in bed with a woman without checking out what her true intentions are well enough.

1) Being intimate with another woman and focusing too much attention on her while you maintain a separate life partner . 2) No.

1) It's a way to get off from time to time. 2) Not much.

1) Not sure, I can be. 2)It depends on the feedback I get from my partner.

I wish I had the maturity in my 20's I have in my 40's.

Male

Straight

Voice of experience

Not much. Makes it easier to relax and indulge. Boinking someone casually - even with full mutual desire - makes me feel selfish.

Not much. Probably not, but I don't really care what other people think.

That I'm losing interest in her.

Fidelity. Yeah, sounds boring, but it works.

Steel bondage is nice, as was waffles flambe. Haven't done anything so kinky that I wouldn't go back for more ... yet. But I keep trying.

Violating the rules you and your partner have mutually agreed on. So far, no. I think about it a little.

Much of it just annoys me. Yes - I have less faith in my fellow man and respect his intelligence less because of it.

I think I'm about average but my lover raves, so you figure it out.

No.

I'm actually OK with the speed at which I learned things. Sure, I would have liked to have been an expert for my first time, but there's always an apprentice phase.

Male

Straight

~10

2-3

Love makes sex become an emotional event between two people committed together in a relationship.

I'm a very sexual person so a lot but it's not all I am though. Sexuality is a great thing but everyone embraces it in their own way. So to be non sexual is not normal in my book.

That I'm too sexual. It's happened in the past.

We both get tested annually and it's something that needs to be brought up before you start getting intimately involved with one another.

I had my ex tie me up with ankle cuffs,rope,blindfold and let him have his way with me. Honestly it was the best sex of my life because I was able to trust someone that much. I would do it in a heartbeat again if I ever got to that trust levl with the new guy.

Cheating is when one party of the relationship commits adultery by having sexual relations. Emotional connections with another person I don't feel are cheating.

It's helped my sex life by allowing us to openly discuss what's going on in the film. Experinceing new things is how you grow as a couple.

I consider myself a good lover beacause I am in touch with my body and am not ashamed of it. We all have flaws so by taking the vanity out of sex you can focus on each other's needs and there for create some very memerbile experinces.

If I did I'd tell them.

That I really enjoy the whole bdsm stuff in bed wish I had experinced it more when I was younger. But everything happens for a reason.

Female

Straight

Sabina

The old cliche: if you love them, it's "making love." If not, then it's just fucking. They're both equally good for different reasons.

Masculinity is inherently sexual. Being a man, I have to have sex appeal and confidence if I want a good mate. This is simple biology. With that said, it is ok not to be sexual. In this world, you don't need anyone to survive.

The truth...that I'm a man-whore and if I'm not 100% satisfied, I cheat.

I use condoms. I don't have sex with whores, strangers, men, or drug users. I'm very honest: I say "I don't have any sexually transmitted diseases. This is your one time to come clean. If you're not sure, get tested. If I get something, I'll cut your head off and leave you in a ditch." That usually sends a clear message and leaves them an out.

Public sex and anal sex are pretty kinky. I'll never have anal sex again without the woman cleaning out her ass first.

Cheating is fucking someone else. Have I ever? Yes.

I like to come in girl's mouths after I take it out. I probably would've never considered anal sex either.

Yes. I have a good sized dick and I take care of myself. I'm physically and emotionally appealling. I love to go down. Part of getting off is seeing the girl come. Or is that control?

No.

Nothing. I've always been a pimp scampi.

Male

Straight

40+

10+

30+

Dave

There's nothing like making love to someone you're truly in love with.But I'm not in love with anyone right now. Let's just enjoy the SEX!!!

Not much of my identity is wrapped up in sex. I think it is OK not ot be sexual.

I'm not afraid of anything!

I always practice safe sex. Yes I do get tested.

I had sex with a guy and a girl (I'm a man) in a bathroom at an X-rated movie house. I loved every minute of it!

Sleeping around on your man or woman when you're committed to each other. I have NEVER cheated!

I enjoy wwatching porn. It has'nt affected me one way or the other.

Yes I do. I guess because I go all out to try to please my partner.

NO.

I really know how to orally please a woman or a man now. I could've been better back in the day.

Male

Gay

Amos

There's nothing like making love to someone you're truly in love with.But I'm not in love with anyone right now. Let's just enjoy the SEX!!!

Not much of my identity is wrapped up in sex. I think it is OK not ot be sexual.

I'm not afraid of anything!

I always practice safe sex. Yes I do get tested.

I had sex with a guy and a girl (I'm a man) in a bathroom at an X-rated movie house. I loved every minute of it!

Sleeping around on your man or woman when you're committed to each other. I have NEVER cheated!

I enjoy wwatching porn. It has'nt affected me one way or the other.

Yes I do. I guess because I go all out to try to please my partner.

NO.

I really know how to orally please a woman or a man now. I could've been better back in the day.

Male

Gay

Amos

It's not necessary for a fun hot time but can often make sex better. The emotional connection somehow makes the physical more intense.

I enjoy being a sexual creature but don't characterize myself solely by my sex life. I think that people who choose not to be sexual at all are missing out.

That I'm not attractive.

I get tested every six months for HIV and yearly for everything else. I use other protection as necessary and as the situation requires.

The kinkiest thing I've ever done is having sex with a guy in a hot tub while my partner was making out with a different guy next to me. I won't have sex with a guy whose penis is smaller than six inches again.

Cheating is breaking the "rules" agreed upon for your relationship, and yes I have.

I find it amusing. The acting is horrible. Occasionally I've found something that might be interesting to try.

Definately. We have to change the sheets often.

No.

If I'd know then what I know now, I would've NEVER gotten out of bed!

Female

12+

Maggie

nothing

some of it

when I ask for some crazy stuff

condoms

choking and a lot of vigorous spanking

Stepping out on your partner consistently while still engaged in a serious committed relationship Yes

Its just fantasy

sure. I pay attention to both peoples needs

How to be comfortable in your skin

Male

Straight

Jay

nothing

i am a bad lay

condoms and tested 3 times a year

orgies, gangbangs, and threesomes

yes

pron has ruined my life

i'm decent

yes.

take your time young man.

Male

Straight

100

joe

everything

should be

who gives a shit unless its love

fastidously the best knowledge of truth is to use it at the red cross

none of your fucking biz nada y nada

absofuckinglutly

why bother

trying & trying

i love you

in 84 that microsoft would be somebody

Male

Straight

jose

Love is the heart, soul, and foundation of a deep, fulfilling sex life. We are not animals. Many claim to lov casual sex, but I bet that deep inside, they feel nothing but empty and insecure concerning their relationships.

Sex is the frosting on the cake of life and relationships. It cant be the foundation, or it will fall. Sex does not define our identity. I never understood why gay people seem to build their entire lives around their sexual desires. Sheesh. I have a foot fetish, but I dont go around holding signs and vacation at 'foot fetish' friendly resorts. My sexual desires are just a small part of my entire beng. Yes its fine to not be sexual in society.

That I am ugly.

Monogamy, open honest communication.

phone sex with a girl I never even went out with.

Sharing intimacy of any kind with someone besides your spouse/committed partner

not at all. Never liked it. Mindless, loveless sex never interested me. Watching others indulging in it repulses me actually.

Most definitely. Why? Many reasons. Ive never had to ask or beg for sex from my partners. They always wanted it once we ha been intimate. Just the way I kiss makes women fall in love with me. The way I treat their entire body as carressable and touchable, nstead of just the 'sex' parts like most guys do. The way they spoil me, buy me gifts, treat me incredibly well. Plus, I AINT good looking, NOR do I have a good paying job. I just connect on a level they arent used to with men. I touch a women the way she wants both physically, and mentally. Men that have to beg for sex are simply lousy lovers. I guarantee, give her good lovin, she will be beggin you.

Only to my college girlfriend, but that was 20 years ago. Nonetheless, I was in a band, and I cheated on her almost every weekend.

I was a fool to divorce my ex-wife for no good reason. She was better to me than most wives are to their men.

Male

Straight

Kal

I think love's got a lot to do with it. You can definitely have emotion-free sex and no-strings-attached sex, but I think eventually if you really want to explore sexually and really open up about things, it's easier and more satisfying to do it with someone you love.

A lot of my identity is wrapped up in sex, but ever since I was young, I've been a very sexual person. I think we get incredibly mixed messages about sex in our culture. Girls are encouraged to be sexy, but not sexual. Our culture embraces "Girls Gone Wild" and "Dawson's Creek" but is reluctant to award young women any real sense of sexuality, such as addressing masturbation, for example. Young men, on the other hand, are expected to be very sexual. If you're not, you're gay.

That I'm fat. (So much for all my feminist blah blah blah!)

I always require my partner to use a condom.

I wish this list were kinkier: spanking, light bondage.

I would define cheating as a serious breach of trust within a monogamous relationship. I think it depends on each couple, and sometimes it's better left a sordid secret, but personally I would think anything beyond a brief make-out session with someone else as definite cheating.

Porn is so confusing. It's affected the way that I look at the world in that I don't know how I feel about it, while at the same time I find some of it arousing. Some feminists find it really degrading, while others think it's empowering. I think the porn industry is pretty lame, but I don't think pornography itself is a bad thing. I think men tend to be more visual than women when it comes to arousal - I know that I get turned on much more by someone touching me than by a photograph of some beefcake dude, and I think many women would agree with me.

I do consider myself a good lover because I thoroughly enjoy sex, and that includes giving blowjobs, which I think men don't expect. However, I think in my head I'm a lot bolder than I am in real life. I tend to be shy about my needs with someone new.

I would just want to thank my first boyfriend, who I am no longer in touch with, for giving me great first sexual experiences. Because we learned on each other, I got all the embarrassing, awkward stuff out of the way and now that I'm older, I'm able to be much more confident in my sexuality and preferences.

I know now that anything I might've thought was weird or bizarre or unique to only me is probably shared by millions of people around the world. That feels good!

Female

Straight

Elsbeth

love, attraction. curiosity

yes it is ok not to be sexual

fat

monogamous relationship

threesome

yes I satisfy my partner

Female

Straight

sue

Very little; sex is a physical expression of one's inner passion and while it can certainly be shared with someone you love, it can just as easily be released with someone you just click with physically

The masses do not need to know details of one's sexual identity; it's yours to share with whoever you chose.

Nothing to be afraid of; either they're willing to take it all on and like it or they're not going to be my partner.

Always use protection with new partners, get all parties tested prior to deciding on exclusive sexual activity, and only have unprotected sex with someone you're exclusive with, trust, and have seen the test results!

I guess a lot of people think the group sex is the kinkiest thing I do, but it seems perfectly natural to me. What I would never do again....well, I'm a lot more careful about making sure persons unknowns don't just wander into a group activity...I didn't care for a guy introducing himself by "did you like those extra fingers? Those were mine!"

Cheating is just being with someone outside of a relationship when you don't have clear communication with your partner(s) saying it's something you may do. I don't get into those committed/exclusive relationships, so I'm not a cheater; I'm just "open"

LOL! Porn can be great...some of it is pure comedy to be enjoyed socially with drinks and pizza and has nothing to do with sex or (hopefully) the world at large. Some of it is very hot and leads to the occassional new position or scenario so I'm all for it!

I'm a good lover because I'm energetic, open minded, enthusiastic, sensual, flirtatious...and, well. I pretty much know what I'm doing by now. What I'm not good at is relationships. If you just want a red hot lover, though; I've got that down.

I'm not big into confessions...I got out of Catholicism some time ago, but I guess I'd like to tell that foreign guy in college who was SO full of himself with stuff like "Oh, let me show you what they taught me in France..." that he really REALLY needs to spend more time with the girls in the states if he wants to earn bragging rights! What a disappointment! Thank goodness the accent was at least hot.

You do not ever EVER have to lie to get what you want. There will always be someone out there who wants exactly the same thing as you so just go out and celebrate your freaky little self!

Female

Leikeila

Not much, depends on the skill

It's not really healthy

Some

condoms

put up with incompetence same

as simple as passionate kissing, yes

maybe, atleast conciderate

That most men don't know what to do with a woman That I was beautiful when I was young That most men don't know what to do with a woman That I was beautiful when I was young

Female

Straight

milessa

nothing

No--sex is all natural

none

Trojan's warming sensations

Aroused my partner anally--wont put cognac on ny clit

no--and going behind the your partners back with another

Porn never affects or hurt me--it turns me on

A very good lover

have sex 4-6 times a week--

how to have more orgasms with oral sex

Female

Straight

"jade"

Not much. It is all about how bad you want to explore someone.

More than I thought. I know who and what I want sexually, but not professionally or presonally. It is okay to not be sexual in society because the secrecey is very appealing.

That I have done things with numerous people when really I just feel comfortable with him to do it all.

Haven't been tested yet, but we always use condoms. It is never a question, never was, just automatic before the deed.

My boyfriend watching while I engaged in activities with his friend. Nothing. I believe we need a way to release and as long as there is no video, there should be no regrets.

Intercourse outside of your committed relationship. I have, but I never had sex with my committed partner again. That is how I always got caught.

It made me realize that my fantasies are just like everybody elses. I think I am more open to people's desires.

Yes. Because I get off seeing my partner excited and satisfied (don't worry, I don't leave myself out of the equation).

No.

Everybody has desires and fantasies.

Female

Straight

Spankie

Love includes trust, I think, which includes being monogomous. Being monogomous allows you to give oral sex without risk of deseases. Clitorial stimulation is how many women reach orgasm. Oral sex is an intimate way of providing this stimulation, and to give someone else pleasure for their sake is love and a gas!

None, I have no sexual partners and been that way for tooo long. I flirt with people which is sexual. You have one life and if you let society dictate how you live it, then you betrayed yourself and what a shame.

As a Man I have been inundated with the fear of having a small penis, not successfull enough.

Condoms, Condoms, condoms! When we're about to have sex I ask if she has any STDs we need to worry about. I have no problem with getting tested. My doctors ahve suggested that when things get serious with someone and we have dicided to be monogomous and not use protection that we get tested. Until then mesages, Straight genital intercourse with a condom, Ribbed for her pleasure.

Sex with two women, a dream come true, so most men think, but as things progressed I found that I was not the center of the experience. As a matter of fact they did need me there at all. While this was a little disheartening, I had to laugh at how superior and self absorbed I had been only a short time ago. If two women wish to have a threesome again I will tell them this story and suggest they not put on. pretenses and just go have fun without me.

Cheating is telling someone to trust you and then doing something you said you would'nt do. Yes. And when I made the commitment I was truly sincere.

I have been alone sexually for many years and so I watch sex and masturbate. I have friends who are strippers, groupies, hookers, and every single one has told me that the reason they do this is because they were sexually abused by their father, or father figure and I have seen their mothers take the mans side, in court! They have stayed in the home, ran away from home, lived on the street. I have heard estimates of 100,000 kids a year. Preditors are out there, on the street, adopting, offerring foster homes, the head of churches, schools, coaching, in law enforcement, and in the porn industry. When I discuss this with people they either don't want to discuss it or they don't believe it, they blame it on the media, birthcontrol, and what these kids need is someone to give a damn about them!

Yes, a really good lover. Because I Studied! I learned what women want. I have two sisters and so I read there Cosmopolitan and Harlequin books. Cosmopolitan more naked women than Playboy and as a young boy, they were accessable porn, but they told me more about female sexual needs and attitudes than male literature on the subject ever could. I also care to be good lover and that is what matters the most. When you love what you study it is'nt work its fun!

That a great backrub, playing footsies under the table, a hand on the knee, your hands touching, a knowing look and smile across the room as everything else blures and becomes mute. That is what sex is.

Male

Straight

100

love is strictly for relationships, sex is an activity, you can have sex and not be in love

i love sex, we get one time around, live life for all its worth! if your not doing it, you are missing out on living life!

that i may be way to kinky & aventurous!

Wrap that rascal! unless you are in a monogomous relationship and get tested, but then again , is anyone really manogomous?

mmf getting it from behind, while eating out the girl. never will screw in comerica park upper deck again!

cheating, mmmmm, I do believe it is a shitty thing to do to someone, but i also believe that humans are sexual creatures and it is impossible not to have more than one partner. it just doesn't seem logical.

porn introduces people to things thay may have never thought to try! i think that it makes people realize that they are not freaks, when they see others enjoying the same things as they do

i would say i'm abouve average, i love to please my lovers, and feel good when i can make them have an orgasm

i cheat, because i am human. i screw because i am human

that people will try to help fullfill your fantasies, if you only tell them to them.

Male

100

richard

You can have great sex without love, you'll just feel bad about it later. You can have great love without sex, but you'll bitch about how you need sex to all your friends and buy a huge vibrator that won't fit before you get it. When you finally get it, its way better than sex without love.

I have many different parts of my identity, but sex is a pretty big part of it. My boyfriend makes fun of me because he can go longer without sex than I can. I think it is OK not to be sexual, but I'm sure it's very hard. I have a friend who isn't actually having actual sex, but she does everything but. I don't know anyone who has managed to avoid sex altogether.

That my labia are huge.

Basically my boyfriend told me he would never have sex before marriage without condoms. that was that. Yes, I get tested a little hypochondriac-ly.

Gotten a topless massage from a lesbian and made out with girls. I won't do either again, girls aren't for me.

Cheating is anything physically romantic with someone other than your partner. Even just kissing. Yes, and i feel so bad about it because I really really love my boyfriend.

Porn hasn't really affected me that much. I think sex and the city has affected me more. ha.

Yes. Because all the men I've had sex with have told me I'm the best they've had. 2 out of 3 weren't virgins.

Yes. I never really loved you I just felt bad for having slept with you and was rationalizing it by saying that. you really did give me "the clam" and I faked Oing with you 87.9% of the time.

condoms aren't just for birth control. when your V itches, it doesn't always mean you have a yeast infection. LUBE IS GOOD.

Female

Straight

5-6

Leslie L.

Female

Straight

Sex tends to make people more vulnerable than they would otherwise be. Sometimes unwillling to love under normal circumstances are more open to it when both people have nothing to hide figuratively and literally. Love seeds (not those) can be planted in those intimate moments.

I am a very sexual being. While I can suppress I can't always hide it. But I think all people have a strong sexual nature some people need more of a comfort zone to express than others. Sometimes I feel like my sexuality is more powerful than my will so I find myself suppress it for mere self preservation. However turning it off and on at the appropriate times is not easy. There are times when its right and healthy to be sexually expressive. Generally or society sexuality is not very well accepted. I feel like people protect there own sexual insecurities by expected everyone to be sexual monoliths. I function well because I have a sense of who and how to express sexuality with.

I am afraid my partner will think I don't find her desirable enough. My partner won't be willing or able to meet my sexual expectations.

I have been in a monogamous relationship for over 10 years. But if I were to step outside that realm I would definitely wear a condom and restrict my sexual activity (I hope).

I don't think it to be all that kinky but I was nipple clamped while tied to a chair on top of table. That shit hurt like hell and I almost died when I fell of the table. I don't feel I have every really ever crossed the line sexually...oh wait no chick is ever going to take a strap on to me again. It wasn't pleasurable and it stalled our momentum. I felt like I gave up waaaay too much control

Becoming emotionally involved with someone else is cheating. It more damaging than becoming sexually involved. Yet it is hard to separate the two when sex occurs repeatedly. I have cheated B.M. (before marriage). LOOPHOLE: If your partner consents to the monogamal pause then its ok. (make sure its only a pause).

Porn has awakened my sexuality. It stimulates my sexual consciousness. However sometime it dominates the picture too much. When I become to immersed in porn it truncates my sexual creativity. It takes my focus away from the sex process and toward the end result, orgasm.

I am a good lover when I am motivated. I am a selfless hard worker who takes pride in giving. I am energetic and diverse. I can cater to the needs of my lover and I am creative enough to keep it fun new fresh and interesting. These are my natural characteristics as a lover but I can and do stray from time to time.

I wish I could articulate to my current lover the oral techniques I like the most. There were a couple of women in my past who were stellar. I miss them sometimes.

Relax its just sex. If you mess up you get to try it again.

Male

Straight

Jason

Everything. How can you be that close to someone without love?

That's weird... just plain weird.

Monogamy.

Leather fetish. Never again.

No.

Lots of ideas...

Not really. Reliable, steady and cute; but not the best.

Male

Straight

10+

Froggy

Nothing. There's love and lust. If you don't lust after someone, no amount of love is going to make you want to have sex with them.

Not much - Iove sex, but it doesn't define who I am as a person.

That my insatiability will make them unable to keep me fulfilled.

Condoms.

Two guys in one night - and talking about what was done with the first while doing it with the second. Ever hear of "my wife goes out and I clean up"? / I would never do it on a pool table again - too hard.

Cheating is when you secretly have sexual relations without your partners knowledge. No, I don't keep secrets. He always knew what I was doing and with whom.

It hasn't.

Yes. I'm not shy and am willing to try (just about) anything.

Gentlemen - when a woman says, "Right there," she means RIGHT THERE. Not up or down a little, not to the right or left a little, but RIGHT THERE! When it's time to move on, she'll let you know.

That being a nympho isn't such a bad thing.

Female

Straight

Stacy

It's not necessary to love every person you sleep with. Sometimes it's just nice to have a proper fuck. And sometimes it's not enough.

I think we're expected to be preoccupied with sex, which is fine by me. But I can imagine that a lot of people out there don't share that opinion.

That all I'm good for is sex. You don't have to worship me, but I expect a certain level of respect.

I'm very up front about condoms, and I'm not afraid to refuse the advances of anyone who doesn't have one/isn't willing to put one on.

Dunno, anal? Yeah, I'd do it again.

Cheating is sexual contact of any kind, and although I consider it all cheating, some types of it are much more forgiveable than others. I've never cheated on anyone.

I used to think I couldn't be hot unless I looked like a porn actress. Thankfully I've gotten over that.

I give damn good head and have my gay friends to thank for it.

You never succeeded in making me come. Never. Not even close.

That he'd never succeed in making me come. Never. Not even close.

Female

Straight

everything

im a virgin

i dont want to get pregnant or be thought of as fat

celibacy

im not kinky

hooking up with someone not in your current relationship

dirty. dirty. dirty

i am an excellent lover

Female

Straight

Lauren

While I don't think it necessarily has to have anything to do with it, I think it's far more gratifying when it's with the one you love. Plus, there's rarely regret making love to your wife. (Unless of course you drop her, that's hard to live down.)

I'm fairly private when it comes to my sexuality. In my opinion, if a man is overly sexual, he comes across as a skeeze. Plus, I'm married, so I don't need to get caught up in the BS of impressing on that level.

That I'm too needy.

It's not an issue.

BDSM. Anal. Cosplay. Outside. I like to explore. Haven't found it yet.

Having physical sex (Oral too, Bill) with someone who isn't your partner with out them knowing. No.

I'm addicted. It sucks. It gets in the way of everything. My wife doesn't have a problem with it, but I sometimes think it's getting out of control. It's certainly desensitized me to really f'd up stuff. It's turned me into more of a jerk than I'd like towards strangers. Less of a gentleman, which isn't how I was raised.

Yes. I've been with the same woman for 11 years. If I couldn't figure it out by now, there'd be no hope for me. It's really important to me that she's satisfied. If I'm just worried about myself, I'd just masturbate (more). It's hugely satisfying making my lover orgasm.

Not really. Not because I've always been talented, but because when I didn't know what I was doing, neither did they.

Slow down.

Male

Straight

Skip

ALOT

Yes...but, sex is good.

Nothing. I am perfect.

Don't worry about them....probably bad.

SEX. Not a kiss.

Yes. It is great.

Yes.

Have more sex! Its good for you.

Male

Straight

Patrick

I basically can't get it up if I'm not in love! I have to convince myself that the girl I'm sleeping with is the right girl for me before we can really have sex. There have been several one night stands where I think the booze got me up instead of the love, though.

My identity is pretty wrapped up in sex, I think. In our society I think it's impossible not to be sexual, but if you are, more power to you.

I'm always worried my current girlfriend will be disturbed by my crossdressing/homosexual tendencies, but she seems to like them a lot.

I wore condoms most of the time. When I got into a serious relationship I would stop wearing them and she would usually get on birth control. We usually talked about STDs before we had sex. I've been tested, and I'm clean.

Kinkiest thing has to be the time I dressed up like a slutty maid and recieved anal sex from my girlfriend, who had a strap on.

I would say cheating is more about the mental betrayal than the physical. I would gladly share my partner if I knew who she was with and that she was doing it. I've never cheated, believe it or not.

It has. There are several sexual acts that I'm quite fond of that I probably would never have thought of until I saw them in porn.

I do. All of my girlfriends have had one, if not mutliple orgasms while we made love. I'm also capable of having intercourse for more than an hour at a time.

I want to tell all of my former lovers that I've always been a transgendered person, and I've probably worn all of their clothes.

I wish I knew not to date half of the girls I've dated. I really wish I didn't sleep with some of them.

Transgender

Rob

Male

Straight

Jett

You don't need love to have hot sex. As long as both parties have an understanding of their relationship, anything goes. And NO love does not make sex better. Sometimes sex is better with someone you hate!

about 25%. It is OK not to be sexual in our society. I think ( especially with teens) that we are too sexual sometimes.

That I don't look good naked!

condoms/oral Birth control. I have been tested and I always ask if my partner has been tested and I always make him wear a condom.

sex in central park in NY on a swing ( extremely public!) ! I would never do Anal sex again...hurts and it's just uncomfortable.

I've never cheated in my relationships. cheating is any physical or emational goings on with someone other than your partner.

I have learned a lot from porn ( blow jobs, positions ..etc) no, it's porn, it should not be taken seriously !

Hell Yeah. I am a giver, I am not afraid to try new things and I love giving BJ's to a deserving partner.

No, I have always been open sexually.

How good sex can be with the right person. I took some bad experiences to heart when I was younger.

Female

Straight

Fran

Everything!

A Whole Lot! (No!)

That I'm really gay and uninterested.

Good hygiene. Condoms. (Straight on). (Maybe).

Install a swing. (Let a big girl get on top when she's kind of dry).

It sucks! (Never!)

It makes me horny. (Not really).

The best! (Because I'm Mr. Clean).

Can you say: "Vaginal Rejuvenation" !

How to hold orgasm back. (Stamina).

Male

Straight

???

Vambo

A lot.

My identity isn't wrapped up in sex, but sex is an important aspect of my life. It isn't really socially acceptable to not be sexual.

Negative opinions about me in bed.

I do get tested. We use condoms. I flat out ask them if they get tested and about their sexual history.

Having sex in the woods on a branch hanging over a river. I probably won't give my guy head ever again after having anal sex.

Having sexual relations outside of the relationship without permission. Yes, I have.

Porn has affected me positively. I enjoy watching and it can help create sexual ideas. It hasn't affected the way I look at the world.

Yes, because I am always up for having sex and am willing to try just about anything.

Slapping the clit area of a woman with your hand like they do in porns sometimes doesn't feel good.

It wouldn't hurt that much to loose your virginity.

Female

Brittany

Icing, but not the cake

I'm about bustin back

any perceived weakness

mono

sex in the middle of the day in the middle of the trail in a state park

steppin out sexually without permission from or dismissal of current sex partner. Oh yeah.

Portal to discovery. Priming the pump.

No and never unless I am talking about that time alone together with me. Now, give me a good partner and the sky is the limit. I have been part of some very good pairings, like food and wine. It becomes something different.

When its down get it up, when its up, take it down. (Once you learn to work the toilet seat, extend this overarching principle to sexual relations.)

Its about the benjamins. Getting rich is like buying futures in sex on the commodities market. Just like orange juice and pork bellies.

Male

Straight

Steve

Sometimes, nothing. I like having sex with a random once in a while.

I think a lot because when I am not in bed...I think about sex and have a sexual nature.

That I am too fat to have sex with them and it wont be good enough

Condoms are the biggest thing when it comes to random sex and I do ask if they have been trusted but you cant rely on the other persons trustworthyness. Yes I do get tested.

Having sex with two guys and I really liked it. Having sex with more than one person at a time.

Cheating has having any sexual contact with another when you are commited to the another person. I have never cheated but I have been the person that someone cheated with... several times.

It hasnt. But I love it!

Yes I do. Because I ever affectionate in bed and always make sure that we are both having a good time. I think sometimes I am a little self consious in bed.

Past lover: You are the best lover I ever had!!!

That sex is not love. But I sure know that now

Female

Straight

Morrison

Not a damned thing!!! Some things are just physical.

My identify with sex very much. I am totally a sexual being. I am a fire sign child, so I am hot by nature anyway. It's okay not to be sexual....although I can't imagine it's very much fun.

Nothing.

Condoms and lube by the ton!!!! Hooray for Sam's Club!!!! I have no problem asking questions and Yes, I get tested.

There's not much that I consider kinky.....nope.....I'm cuming up blank. If it feels good do it!!!! If it feels really good, do it again!!!

Cheating is engaging in a relationship with someone outside of your committed relationship. Yes, I cheated on my husband when he stopped paying attention to me.

I used to sneak and look at my father's porn. I now have my own porn collection. Everyone is a sexual being, why deny it?

Yes. I'm confident in my abilties to make my partner feel good. I guess that's why they keep coming back....and ex's just won't go away!!!

Nope.

Hmmm....I think I've calmed down in as I've gotten older.

Female

Straight

70+

10+

Yvette

If you arent in a commited relationship... then not much.

Id say about 50% Its ok not to be sexual, but i think its abnormal.

She's fat

condoms. Ive started carrying them on me so there is never a time that bad decisions can be made. I have been tested..

biting i guess.

Being in a relationship and hooking up with someone else... unless you are in an open relationship. and that includes kissing. Ive never been the cheater, but i have been the "other woman"

I have to say yes to this one. It had desensitized me to a lot of things.

Sure. Most inhibitons are out the window at that point, and i think that makes it exciting.

HA! many things.

I wish i had known more about men and how they think when i was younger. It would have saved me some unrest.

Female

Straight

very little/sure

overweight

substain-------just tell them ,don't be afraid------have been tested

anal /yes i would

disrepecting ones mate , knowning intimate relations w/another,lying about it

pron is not in my life

yes----------try almost anything

never go w/marry man again

other position

Female

Straight

betty

Everything

25% - it's okay not to be overtly sexual, but I think our society does revolve a lot around sex. There is so much more to life and business.

Unattractive due to body issues, weight, size.

Monogomus relationship with testing prior to sex. You have to be straight forward and ask.

Kinkiest - Analingus. Not sure

Intentionally flirting with another person to get sexually charged, kissing and everything after. Yes

Porn can add a little spice now and then. I think it numbs you a little to kinks.

Yes. Because I care about my partners satisfaction. I feel sexy.

Nothing

Female

Straight

I think that "Sex, Lies & Videotape" said it best: "...men learn to love the person that they're attracted to, and (that) women become more and more attracted to the person that they love."

Asexuality is copping out; if you can't find a sexual preference you're not trying hard enough.

That I can't satisfy her.

We talk - first and foremost. We get tested - often. We use our brains. We act like adults about it.

Sex behind the coat rack on the sales floor of a Sears store - first and last time.. mind-blowing and paranoic.

Cheating is intuitively obvious. It's like art: you know it when you see it.

Porn has expanded my sexual horizons but has not affected my world; I hold no illusions (or allusions) that I could ever - or would ever want to - be a porn star.

Yes - because my partners tell me so. And I reciprocate. It's all about listening, you know...

(cue music: "Song for the Dumped" - Ben Folds Five)

Everything. Geo.B.Shaw was right: "Youth is wasted on the young."

Male

Straight

kiwi

Nothing

Not

My unit is too large

Rain coat, no testing

Oral, No

Love usually makes it better, but love is not necessary. There's a lot to be said for a hot one-nighter, but it's not a lifestyle.

It's human nature to be sexual. Society reflects and exploits that. I actually think that many of the sexual inhibitions in our society are unnatural and that human nature shows through regardless. Identity? I'm a sexual being. It doesn't define me.

Not too worried about it. If we're not good together in bed, we're probably not very compatible otherwise. That said, being thought of as a poor performer is a disappointing.

I get tested when a partnership requires it or I think there's a potential reason. Condoms and caution are the protection.

Tying. Spanking. Public places. Threesomes. I'd hesitate to say that there's anything I've done that I wouldn't do again. I'd say a threesome or orgy are unlikely because I'm more into long-term relationships now. I've been pretty consistent with the things I'm not into. I don't plan to do anal or excrement. Violence turns me off, too.

Emotionally, extracurricular emotional involvement, especially putting an attraction over your relationship. Physically, sex, kissing, petting, making out, or other "romantic" or "intimate" physical activities while in an exclusive relationship. Yes, I have.

Not really.

Yes. I appreciate foreplay. I like to change things up and keep it interesting. I have longevity. I can go multiple times. I know when and how to inject romance and raunch in the right proportion.

Nope. Anything I haven't said doesn't need to be said.

Sooo much about the way women think and feel.

Male

Straight

40+

Steve

ALOT! I do believe you feel much freer if you're in a loving relationship. Trusting and feeling secure. Not that you need it, but you'd be suprised how much better it feels!

I'm very secure in my identity, but it's because I know what I want and what I don't.

That the reason I'm so comfortable with whatever we do is tied to the idea that I was to easy at one time.....and not that I'm just comfortable with what I want and deserve the pleasure too.

Condoms...Condoms....Condoms!!!!! You just come out and tell them. There is no room for being hesitant here. Yes....get tested!

asphixiation(?) Went to a adult book store's back room once.....just out of curiousity. Did NOT engage in anything.....and I wouldn't go again!!!!!! A bit too scary for me.

Cheating is giving yourself to another when you've claimed to be true to one particular partner. No.

I'm sure porn is fine for some. I do think for many men, it gives them a distorted truth about sex and love.

Yes. Because I've very open about what I want. I like to be pleased as well as give my partner what he needs.

I definitely learned what I needed at the right time. Any earlier, I would not have been able to accept it.

Female

Straight

Zan

Not everything, but a lot. Good, fun casual sex can be great - but there's nothing as deeply emotionally unifying as the love embrace.

A signficiant part of my identify involves sexuality. I think about it daily, whether it involves a fantasy of someone I run into on the street, or the person I have been seeing. Sexuality is as important as the other facets of every day life -- finances, work, health, family.

That I'm not "good" and "caring" sexually. As a man, there's the delicate balance of "holding off" until your partner is satisfied. I sometimes find that my partner's orgasm/ pleasure is more important than mine.

For the most part, I try to have monogamous relationships so that this doesn't have to be an issue. I have been tested.

Geez, my kink factor ispretty low compared to many. Blindfolds, gag, spanking, restraints and a little bit of pain (both ways) is a good start though...

Cheating is a sexual encounter with anyone if you are in a committed relationship where the expectations are that you are monogamous. Yes, I have cheated and I am not proud of it.

My earliest porn discovery involved finding my dad's stash in the crawl space under our home when I was a kid playing with friends. It was pretty kinky stuff, a lot of leather, whips, chains, etc. It may have contributed to my interest in the darker areas...

Yes, I am a very good lover. My partner's pleasure is my priority.

I would like to tell my current partner to be more creative and bold sexually -- it is one of the only reasons I am not sure about our future.

Sexual maturity can occur at any age -- I have been with women in their 20's who are far more sexual mature than those in their 40's.

Male

Straight

luster

WELL LOVE IS NOT FINDING SOMEONE TO LIVE WITH... IT'S FINDING SOMEONE YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT!! A VERY BIG DIFFERENCE!

I, MYSELF LIKE TO SHOW A BIT OF MY SENSUAL SELF AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT. AND I BELIEVE IT'S OK NOT TO BE SEXUAL TODAY!! IT'S A PESONAL CHOICE

I GUESS THAT THEY MAY THINK I'VE BEEN WITH TOO MANY PARTENERS. OR THAT I'VE TRIED SO MANY DIFFERENT THINGS SEXUALLY.

WELL I ALWAYS HAVE CONDOMS ON HAND. I DO GET TESTED, BUT NOT BECAUSE I SLEEP AROUND. MY EX HAD A STRAY PROBLEM, THEREFORE I GET TESTED. AND DROPPED HIS ASS!!

I REALLY THINK I'D DO EVERYTHING AGAIN AT SOME TIME. AT LEAST I HOPE TO!

CHEATING IS ANYTHING SEXUAL. TOUCHING, KISSING, ORAL,ETC. I DID ONCE AND FELT LIKE SHIT TO THIS DAY FOR IT. NEVER WILL I DO THAT AGAIN.

I LIKE PORN. BUT I FEEL THAT MOST MEN REALLY THINK PORN IS REAL. IT'S A FORM OF ENTERTAINMENT FOR PEOPLE.WE DONT LOOK LIKE THAT AND SOME OF US CAN'T BEND AR MOVE LIKE THAT. ANDYES, SHE'S FAKING THAT LOUD ORGASM!!!

YES I DO. BECAUSE I KNOW HOW TO TEASE TO THE POINT OF DRIVING A GUY CRAZY. I LIKE TO PULL OUT LITTLE SURPRISES TO KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP INTERESTING EVERY SO OFTEN.

NOPE!

THERE ARE A FEW THINGS I WISH I'D KNOWN BUT THAT WAS THEN AND THIS IS NOW!! LIFE IS ALL ABOUT LEARNING NEW THINGS.

Female

Straight

LOT

SICKGIRL

EVERYTHING. IF I AM IN LOVE THAN THE SEX TRANSCENDS THE PHYSICAL ACT OF SEX AND DEVELOPS INTO A MORE SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE.

A LOT OF MU IDENTITY WAS WRAPPED UP IN SEX UNTIL I DISCOVERED I HAD ABNORMAL CELLS ON MY CERVIX. I DID NOT HAVE SEX FOR 2 YEARS. I FELT ASEXUAL AND FEARFUL TO ALLOW THAT SIDE OF MYSELF AN OPPORTUNITY TO SURFACE. I ALSO GAINED AN ENORMOUS AMOUNT OF WEIGHT.

I KNOW I AM GREAT IN BED. MAYBE I AM A LITTLE TOO CONFIDENT.

CONDOMS. ALL THE TIME. I HAVE NO OTHER FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL. AND DO NOT THINK EVERYMAN I SLEEP WITH IS A POTENTIAL BABY DADDY.

NO SUCH THING AS KINKY IF BOTH PEOPLE THINK IT IS A COOL IDEA. MY BOYFRIEND USED TO EAT MY PUSSY AND JACK OFF. WHEN HE CAME IT WOULD LAND ON MY FOOT AND I WOULD ROCKET INTO ORGASMIC PLEASURE. NEVER SAY NEVER TO ANYTHING.

SPENDING QUALITY TIME AWAY FROM ME TO BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE. SEX IS JUST SEX, BUT WHEN MY TIME IS COMPROMISED THEN WE GOT CHEATING. FOR EXAMPLE, KWAME TEXTS TO BEATTY. TOOK TIME TO PLAN ALL THAT. AND POOR CARLITA WAS MISSING HER TIME. YES I HAVE, BUT B/C I WAS LONELY.

I LIKE PORN. IT HAS ITS PLACE

I AM A GOOD LOVER B/C I AM CARING GIVING GENTLE AND KIND. I THINK TO BE A GOOD LOVER REQUIRES COMMUNICATION. IF WE HAVE A MEETING OF THE MINDS THAN WE DEFINITLY SHOULD BE ABLE TO TACKLE THE BODY.

ED UR PENIS WAS THE SMALLEST THING I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE. I AM SO PUZZLED THAT I HAD MORE ORGASMS W/U THAN ANYONE I HAVE EVER MET. MAYBE IT WAS UR BIG BELLY.

CONSISTANT USE OF CONDOMS REALLY DOES PREVENT PREGNANCY.

Female

Straight

LELA

Well when it comes to sex, nothing. Sex and making love are two different things. I can have sex without being in love.

A lot. I exuded sex appeal. When I am out, I can make every man i gaze at believe I want him. It unrealistic to not be sexual. Sex is all around us. To each his own though. What ever floats ones boat.

that I am unattractive or not good in bed.

I get tested, I use condoms and I tell them if want to go deep sea diving, you need scuba gear!

Group sex

Cheating is being a selfish bastard who just has to have it. My main problem is that I have been a habitual cheater. It is a thrill to me.

Porn made me the bedroom diva that I am! I love porn! I think the connection to porn is that no matter what color, contienent, or religion, we all have sex and identify with sex.

Of course. I am passionate, I envision myself in a porno when I am having sex.

I AM A FREAK AND I HAVE DONE SOME SWINGNG!

men are dogs!

Female

Straight

Tony

Not much, not often!

A lot, and it's quite ok to be sexual in our society

That they don't remember my name

Use protection at all times until in a committed, sharing knowledge relationship

I'm pretty vanilla, though pretty open minded

That's a gray area, and that's a gray area..

It's not affected me too much other than it's taught me a thing or two and kept me occupied when i've not had a partner

I'm very good; as i'm quite attentive and have a tongue like a dyke

Not really

What a bunch of psychos lots of my ex's were before i got with them

Male

Straight

Zeke

If you are in a committed relationship, thenlove has everything to do with it. If you are out just to get off...then screw love.

None of my identity is wrapped up in sex and be what you want to be today!

That I am not limber

I am married so I don't use protection...however when I was out there I always carried condoms( I am female) and I always ask about getting tested together.

Given someone a blow job while they were driving

I have not cheated, but I have thought about it. Cheating is when you are involved physically and emotionally with someone other than your significant other.

I don't like it and I don't care if people watch it.

A very good lover becasue I take time and make sure my partner is completely satisfied and I cater to all of his sexual needs.

Nope....well...I wish my husband would last longer

That orgasms are WONDERFUL!!!!

Female

Straight

Honey

Everything, I think that love is the top of the sexual pyramid, with 4 servings of lust per day at the bottom, and somewhere in between is the wild and kinky stuff.

I think its just a law of nature that everyone is sexual, there are not even degrees of sexual, there are just varying hues that people hide behind, some are just more translucent.

That some of my thoughts border criminal in at least 8 states.

No worries, very monogamous for over 14 years.

Having sex in a retail store front on Old Woodward in Birmingham, very late one evening. I would love to do everything again, twice

Being afraid that if you don’t keep your “options open” by playing around, they might be the first to end up in bed with someone else, insecure. No, I have never been that insecure in a relationship, and I’ve always distanced myself from the ones who were insecure toward me.

I have seen porn make me more callus, toward sex in college when mob mentality was present. Since then my partner and myself have used it almost as foreplay, she enjoys the anticipation

I’m a good lover to my partner (wife) because we have similar taste, and because I listen to her cues what she likes and dislikes. I’m not a good lover in some respects which forces me to continually learn, which makes homework fun.

No, other than I lied you where not the best I ever had

When a girl at a party volunteers you and her to go on a beer run, go on the beer run.

Male

Straight

H-Wood

Everything

majority

he can get better, elsewhere

I get tested, but I only have one partner.

I have took in in the ass, had a threesome and if it was not for my religion would probably do them all again

cheating is having any type of intimate relationship with anyone that is not who you have made a commitment with. Yes

Yes it has...I think my man always wants sex with other woman

I have never had any complaints so I never thought about it.

I cheated

Can't think of anything

Female

Jay

Everything

majority

he can get better, elsewhere

I get tested, but I only have one partner.

I have took in in the ass, had a threesome and if it was not for my religion would probably do them all again

cheating is having any type of intimate relationship with anyone that is not who you have made a commitment with. Yes

Yes it has...I think my man always wants sex with other woman

I have never had any complaints so I never thought about it.

I cheated

Can't think of anything

Female

Jay

It makes the best moments better and the worst not so bad...

It is looked at as an anomoly...what's wrong with them..

that I wasn't "In the moment"

married and tested...no issues

3 some before marriage...don't see it happening again

cheated no...looked at it, yes.

made me a bit more ok with my fantasy life...I am not the only guy who enjoys the occasional look

I am a considerate one...a good one? not so sure

Sorry the first time didn't last longer...it is still a treasured memory though, thanks

don't worry if you don't have it every night

Male

Straight

John

Before my fiance, sometimes I love who I slept with, sometimes I didn't. These days, there's no dividing love from sex or sex from love, and I like it that way.

Sex is a facet of my identity, but my identity is nowhere near wrapped up in sex. I am a sexual creature and happy to be one, but it's not all that I am.

I have no sex-based fears where my partner is concerned.

We've been monogamous for two years, so we've covered these hurdles. We've both been tested, are clean, and therefore have no fears.

I think cheating can be defined as being emotional and/or physical. Emotional infidelity is the flirtation and seduction that can and often does lead to physical infidelity. Physical infidelity is anything that would be considered unacceptable within the relationship. I believe that each couple must set their own boundaries. Some people would be ok with their partner flirting and kissing with other people, some aren't. I've cheated a couple/few times. Emotional infidelity was my biggest offense, but I did physically cheat on a partner a couple times in the weeks leading up to our final break. The interesting thing is that I felt more guilt over the emotional infidelities than the physical.

Porn has introduced me to new tricks and techniques, positions and kinks. I don't think it's affected my world view.

I do consider myself a good lover. I've been told that I'm talented and skilled, but I think it's more important that I'm willing to try new things and concerned with my partner's pleasure. Good, giving, and game all the way!

Sometimes I want to tell my ex that I cheated on him, how and why, and rub his nose in it. But that's not about getting it off my chest, it's about crushing his ego and getting a kick out of kicking him. It would be mean and messy, so I don't do it.

Size. Isn't. Everything.

Female

Straight

Michelle

There's nothing hotter than "new love" sex. While I've been on both sides of the true love vs. no strings fuckfest, I do find that I'm able to be much less inhibited with a long term partner than I would be with someone I don't know.

I identify as a married, non-practicing bisexual. I do consider myself MOSTLY lesbian -- I really dislike men emmensely, and it plays a very large part in my personal identity. Of course it's okay to be non-sexual but I think that it may be difficult for individuals to relate to our sexually driven society without some sort of label.

That I'm fat or unattractive.

Married, tested and monogomous. Hubby had a vasectomy at 27 - we know we don't want (more) kids and we know neither of us will cheat. No need to test.

On our honeymoon, we went to a sex club in New Orleans where we watched others fuck in different combinations and let others watch us fuck (very up close and personal). Not that I think this is kinky, but some might consider my bisexuality "kinky" -- I've slept with both genders in less than a four hour period.

Cheating is giving mental, sexual/intimate attention to anyone other than the person you're involved in a relatship with. And yes, I used to cheat constantly with my first marriage. Wouldn't dream of cheating now -- I'm with the right person.

I LOVE porn. I don't think many girls like porn; maybe it's because I'm bi and wired differently but I really enjoy watching people fuck and especially like "specialized" porn -- I hate run of the mill, blonde, siliconed bimbos. I like natural looking women, fleshy girls with jiggly asses, etc.

I think I am a very good lover -- I'm very open minded and game for just about anything that doesn't involved underaged people or poop. I do think I can tend to be lazy, though and don't always reciprocate in even amounts.

Nothing really -- I try to live a no regrets life. Although I would like to tell my ex that I faked it more than half the time. HA!!!

I wish I had been more comfortable with my sexuality when I had a body that really would have made for ideal optimization of my broad horizons!

Female

Clover

Trust and honesty.

I suppose it's OK, but it sounds like a pretty miserable existence to me.

that I wouldn't want to cuddle afterward.

Monogamy.

Had sex in the front seat of a VW Rabbit in the parking lot of a gay bar in Detroit. I'm female, and the partner in question was a guy I met at said gay bar that evening.

Doing something sexual w/someone else without your partner's knowledge, and you know that your partner would be upset about it if they knew. I have cheated, but he really deserved it.

porn is entertainment, fun to rent every once in awhile, and even more fun to ridicule.

yes, because I'm up for almost anything, and I try to please my partner as much as he pleases me.

You're not all that.

That most of my boyfriends, and my ex-husband, turned out to be assholes.

Female

Straight

filmsnob

Depends on what your having sex for. If you love the person, and the sex is good, I think that makes for an even greater connection, but if it is good and there is no love, i don't think it takes anything away from it. However, if you don't love the person and it is bad....RUN! If you do love them and it is bad, Walk Swiftly!

Maybe a little, but not too much. I do think it is OK not to be sexual in our society, but you would probably be considered odd.

Not sure....

Condoms, Condoms, Condoms. I have been tested but not regularly. No diseases. I have never had an AIDS test and I am scared to death of it.

Cheating is having Sex wiht another person. Yes I have.

I think it gives you great ideas and is great for fantasy but I believe it skews people who don't have much experience, particularly teenagers.

Yes

Yes....but i'm not gonna tell you...

Female

Straight

Christina

Not much

Not a lot. Maybe because I'm in middle age now. Yeah, I think it's ok not to be sexual in our society.

That I need them more than they need me.

Just condoms. I wear condoms all the time. I get tested once a year.

I'm not that kinky. I guess analingus. I'm game for anything pain free.

Having sex with a person when your are in a relationship with a different person. This includes kissing and hand holding. Yes, I have cheated.

I think I should get more sex and in more imaginative ways. I think my partners are lame in some instances for not being more adventurous.

I think I am. I've been told enough, unsolicited, that I am a good lover.

No.

Women are more visual than they like to let on.

Male

Straight

Zed

It makes sex more intimate and emotionally rewarding.

Sexuality is inherent in our nature as human beings. Expression of it is something that can never be repressed.

That I am not sexually satisfied by them.

I am monogomous. I broach the subject by asking. Period. Yes, I get tested.

I let a girl fuck my ass with her tongue and fingers. There is nothing I will not do again.

Cheating is acting on our natural impulse of being with more than one person sexually. Yes, I have.

It has become a part of my life that I sometimes wish I could get rid of. Yes, it has affected the way I look at people and what they will do for pleasure and money.

Yes. Because I am focused on pleasing my partner. That is what gets me off.

Absolutely. I want to say, "Honey, just because I want you to act like a slut sometimes in the bed, doesn't mean that I dont still love you. Now move your hand and let me stick it in your bum."

A) Women can get off from words alone. They are much more cerebral than men B) I think I kinda like boys.

Male

Straight

Achilles

Though nice to have sex with someone you love, lust and sex are more linked.

It's a very personal preference about how to express your sexuality in our society. For some people they do think their identity is wrapped up in sex, however others of us can exsist in dual worlds, both sexually and non sexually.

That I am not a good sexual partner.

It's the 20th century, condoms are a must with any sexual relationship and regular testing is also a good practice for all adults who are sexually active. How do you approach it, well for women it's simple, no glove, no love.

Wow, I don't have an answer for this one.

Cheating is engaging in any kind of sexual behavior with another person who is not your long term partner, this inclues kissing, oral sex, anal sex and intercourse. It even includes having an intimate emotional relationship that is defiant of your partner.

I think that it gives men the wrong idea of what a woman is supposed to look like. It has affected me in the way that it's hard to compete with the airburshed beauty that appears in porn.

I would like to think I am a good lover. I am tender, yet assertive, I know what I want and ask for it nicely.

Tom- You were not that well endowed so stop thinking you are hot shit !

Use a condom every time because men lie!

Female

Straight

Renee

Very Little if anything.

It's all personal preference and yes it's ok to be asexual its also ok to be a flippin outrageous transexual too, whatever floats your boat. I choose not to judge others and in turn hope they do not judge me.

I am afraid that she would not like the fact that I am attracted to most other women as well as her.

I get tested and use monogomy. If that does not work, wrap it.

Totally dominated a woman who wanted to be totally dominated. Used her as my sex slave for an entire day. Mostly I liked pulling her hair and forcing her to swallow my cum as she went down on me gagging. She loved it and I loved it.

Cheating is doing something that the rules of your relationship forbid however different people have different rules so it's difficult to define.

I have seen so much porn that I am desensitized now.

Yes because I make sure my partner is satisfied as well as me.

Not really, let sleeping dogs lie.

I wish I had my curent attitude in my 20's I would have gotten laid way more often.

Male

Straight

1-2

Leland

Love can make it more or less thrilling.

It is OK to be either way.

Indifferent

Fidelity

On the couch

Cheating is dishonesty to cover up something that would piss your partner off. Yes.

Makes me see women as more sexual than real life experiences have proven them to be.

I am an improving lover.

That there is nothing shameful about sexual desire.

Male

Straight

Patrick

Not a whole lot in the beginning. Lust has led to some pretty hot, intense sex. Love can either take it to another level or put a lot of complication in the mix.

It's not who I am. But it feels good to have people say they enjoy you or can't get enough. It boosts the ego and lets you know you're on track. If you don't enjoy it, you'll probably end up doing it anyway and that sucks.

That I can't keep up. Or where'd you learn that?

Protection is important. I used to be scared out of my mind of AIDS. It's sad, but true, that after the publicity of AIDS died down, I have taken a few chances. Most guys are more afraid of women having their kids than protecting themselves against disease. I get tested yearly and vow to protect after each clean bill of health. So far I've been lucky.

A quickie in the ladies restroom in a stall while our friends waited at the bar. Not really kinky, but I have my whole life ahead of me! Never again will I let someone force me to have sex. I'd kill him or die trying.

Cheating can be emotional and sexual and I've done both. No more though. Deceit and disappointment are not worth it.

I haven't seen much, but have dated guys who own and watch it religiously. It didn't seem to help them in the bedroom though. They watch but don't take enough notes!

I do. I am 100% involved. I don't worry about how I look or what I weigh. I just go for it and I try to notice what turns the other person on. I have to work on talking and feedback. They say you should talk during sex - "That felt good. I like it when you do that." But it's hard to do.

I've had sex with a couple guys that just came off way too feminine. I made up excuses why I stopped seeing them - but I was just afraid they may go both ways.

That sex is ultimately fun and not supposed to be this dark, hidden secret. It's ok to be sexual and be smart and funny. You don't have to be one or the other. In high school, sexual women were labeled quickly. You had to choose sides early.

Female

Straight

1-2

Erin

It seems like the most important sentiment at the moment of truth, but, a couple of minutes later you realize it's just Wednesday and tomorrow is another day. True and undying love occurs just at the moment of orgasm.

Not a lot - there are issues more important than sex, for example:

He eats pussy better than the girls.

Usually I power wash them prior to sex. This cleans things up and gets them wet at the same time. You have to go easy on the bleach though.

Do you want to know about the rib tickler or the lung puller?

What's cheating?

Yes, now I appreciate people with their clothes on.

Not right now, could you send someone over to upgrade my self-esteem?

Yes, I have two, yes two (2) penis' - this was supposed to be a birth defect but the ladies seem to like me.

That fisting was fun. That sex really is dirty. I know why I'm going blind.

Male

Mr. Bob

Not necessary for hot sex. But when it's added to hot sex it gets even better!

A good part. A sexually active person is more apt to be happy and healthy.

Nothing. I am open minded and love to please her any way she likes it. My demands are easily met and I demonstrate my appreciation.

Condoms and discretion in choosing prospective partners. I have always had this personal standard.... "If I don't want to eat it, I don't want to fuck it"! I just put on the condom. A woman who rejects the notion of protection too quickly may present unacceptable risk. I got tested after getting divorced from my alcoholic, Bi-polar, slut wife who for the last 2 years would fuck any guy with a bag of weed, and then all his friends on the floor in the middle of the room. (This skank actually did this in the guy's trailer).

I once had this sex only relationship with this woman who liked me to leave the front door unlocked and go to bed. Around midnight she would quietly come into my bedroom, turn down the sheet and take my cock into her mouth. If I was truly asleep when she arrived she liked it all the more. She liked to suck and fuck the hell out of me without any words. Just moans and shreaks. She swallowed, no quit, no spit and asked for nothing. I think she almost liked it better when I didn't go down on her. She felt more like the whore. She did on some occasions ask me to drink several beers before she arrived and not urinate. She would then blow me in the shower and when I was harder than Chinese Algebra she asked me to pee on her 32DD breasts. Then she would suck me to climax and eagerly gobble the goop and rub some on her face like a porn star. One a few occassions after blowing me up big and hard she asked me to "butter her up" (literally with butter!) and fuck her in the ass. Then I would baste her buttocks with greasy cum. Oh, I'd do it all again.

Cheating is lying. If you profess to be monogamous and you're not, you're a worthless piece of shit and deserve to get a case of the Green Dick from that stinky piece of ass you couldn't resist.

It's sometimes fun to watch if you keep in mind it has no more to do with reality than 'The Terminator'.

Yes. Simply because I love sex. I love receiving pleasure and I clearly express my appreciation to my lover. I also truly care to know and understand what it is that turns her on and makes her feel like the most beautiful woman in the world when we make love. It is a great pleasure to give a woman three or four orgasms and have her tell you she usually never cums during sex, usually only when she masturbates.

Yes. Joanne, you are the best lover I have ever had the pleasure of experiencing. You're giving and appreciative and your breasts haunt my memories. I miss your kisses, your touch and I truly regret I broke up with you for what's her name who broke up with me a month later. I should have called you, hat in hand, to reconnect last summer but I figured you'd tell me to take a leap! Hope you're Well and Happy!! You deserve to be!

Not to marry Nancy!

Male

Straight

80+

4-5

Tommy

Sex is the physical expression of love. But of course one can have either one without the other, it's just a much deeper and richer experience when one has both with a significant other.

It's OK not to be sexual. My identity is only partly wrapped up in sex. I am involved with work, friends, finances, etc., so sex is often "on the back burner".

Cheating is any action that breaks an agreement with another person. In the area of sex and relationships, it would be kissing, inappropriate touching (or allowing to be touched), fondling, etc.

Male

Straight

Nevermind

at times something, but most not much at all

about 100 peercent is wrapped up. if there is no identity then whats the point of being into someone. sure why not, not everyone enjoys hot- sweaty sex!

the thought of good-bad-or how ugly was it!

get tested often. condoms and birth control. the subject is just talked about, not much to it.

while camping in the woods- middle of the night got butt naked and enjoyed sex in the open.

if you with someone and even come in physical contact with the other sex besides verbal is cheating. yes i have

love it. nothing wrong with it. it affects that my school teacher or my doctor go be doing porn. nothing wrong with it.

i do. i only do what i can to make a women happy. if there is moaning and grasping then job has been done.

yes. it sucks that a girlfriend your with have hot ass friends and when things break lose---- you already made great relationships with those friends then decide to hook up!

that no matter what a female looks like on the outside there is always a dirty secret you can never wash off in the morning!!!!!!

Male

Straight

ACE

Love and sex must go together.

It is socially acceptable to not be sexual. But some of my identity is tied to (hetero)sexuality.

That I had too many previous partners in sexual intercourse. (Maybe I have.)

(1) Use condoms. (2) Avoid premarital sex.

Perhaps Playboy magazine has affected my view of the world. I have read a bit of "erotic" and pornographic fiction. I throw it out. I once read a sado-masochistic story: it was despicable.

It's not a profession.

How fickle I am.

Male

Straight

There is nothing quite like grabbing the man you love, kissing him hard, and feeling the tingle throughout your entire body.

It is as much a part of me as breathing. It is part of our primal selves. It is human. For those who are sexually unresponsive or repressed, I pity them.

That I am a bit too "out there" in my desires. So far, though, I have been pretty lucky with partners and their willingness to please.

I use condoms. I am in a relationship now so we have had the talk a long time ago. I just got tested at Planned Parenthood on February 3. I am clean.

Had anal sex in the back seat of an ex's car after a concert at Phoenix Center Plaza in Pontiac. People were walking by and I don't think there was any way they missed the "show". It was dirty, it was bad, it was primal, and it still gets me wet to this day.

Cheating is when you have feelings for another person besides your significant other. I began an affair with a married man last May and had some of the best sex of my life. I don't regret it. I regret hurting my boyfriend's feelings. However, it wasn't really even about him, if that makes sense...

I have no issues with porn. Some of it is exciting, most of it sucks. I enjoy burlesque, S & M, and erotic art more.

Yep. I surrender. And I am a damn good kisser. And no matter what anyone says, KISSING IS IMPORTANT!

I confess that I fell in love with the guy I had an affair with. I still love him and always will.

I wish all the past effort I put into loser boyfriends that didn't deserve my affection, that I could take it all back now, and refocus that wasted energy on something worthwhile and meaningful.

Female

Straight

Sonja

When you care about the person and they enjoy themselves it adds to your enjoyment. When you are close you don't feel the need to perform or keep score.

Very little of my identitiy is wrapped up in sex. I think it is actually better to not be sexual in society as it changes how people perceive you.

That I am a sick twisted individual that needs help.

Monogamy.

crossdressed while my best friend fucked me.

Cheating is an enotional issue. It can involve physical aspects but the real cheating is when you share your emotions with another outside your committed realtionship. And I don't mean just talking about them with your friend, I mean sharing those emotions emotionally.

It has wasted a lot of my time. It has changed how I look at the world. Both good and bad. It has allowed me to see that there is nothing wrong with my choices and I'm not alone in making them. It has also jaded how I look at others. When there is so much pron available you start to believe that people like this are out there waiting for you to find them.

Not really. I feel like I have fallen into a predictable pattern lately and can't seem to get out of it.

The fact that I crossdress and find transexuals exciting.

That there are a lot of people like me out there. I'm not weird and don't need to be ashemd or feel guilty.

Male

Straight

Robert

Everything. I feel that it is important part of a relationship

Of course not. Sexuality is important. People are sexy in there own way, it may be the way they smile, walk or talk.

I'm not freaky enough.

I get tested once a year for HIV and if I was a single person I would be sure to have my partner wear a condom.

I had a threesome with my baby daddy, and the other baby mamma. Just dumb as hell

When you have any contact with opposite or same sex.

Yes. I like to see good porn when I'm by myself. No it hasn't

Yes I like to please and get pleased. I like for my partner to be satisfied.

I could have saved my virginity

Female

Straight

Love has everything to do with it. One nighters are fun but some of the kinkiest fun can be bareing your soul to another and enjoying each others fantasies.

Its a 50/50 proposal. Firting and verbal foreplay is a blast with the right person and moment. How many times have you got that look and shared a few arousing comments getting a coffee? I can't have sex all the time; have other interests(believe or not), commitments and have to pay the bills.

You want to do what?! or Oh that really gets you going huh?!

Condoms. If you want it we will play safe. Tested a few years ago but not since.

Group fun. Elevators are too fast - never again.

Cheating is cheating when it feels like cheating. Let your conscience be your guide. Yes I have and never again.

Set the timer, moderation is a must. Its just too easy to get carried away. Wow, if you are into, well whatever you're into, there are others like you out the there.

Pretty good, I'd say. The key is pleasure to your partner first. What cums around goes around.

Sorry for pretending I wasn't a virgin when I was. If you'd know I know things would have been different

There is balance of talking too much and not saying what you desire . Communication is the key to it all.

Male

Straight

Toffer

Depends on the state of the relationship, as well as the definition of love. Things we find important now become annoyances later on, and vice versa. Anyone who's been with someone else for awhile can tell you that.

I have a pretty good balance with hole sacred/profane thing, probably because I have children two children separated by 12 years. Having children has made me respect discretion as well as hidden passions. Of course it's fine not to be sexual in our society, there are millions upon millions of older people who have essentially lost any remnent of sexualness. I imagine they are still 'OK'.

That I'm not trustworthy. Some say that indicates it is me who can't be trusted, but that's not it at all. Trust can be shattered almost as easily by rumour as it can real infedility. Besides, being accused of stuff you didn't do, but wouldn't mind trying, gets old pretty quickly...

marriage; no subject to broach. Right?

pissing, pissing everywhere and we both gave as good as we got. Pure frenzied state I'll have trouble ever experiencing again. What won't I do again? As far as sex goes, regret for doing nothing haunts me more than that regret one gets from having gone too far. Just as it should be.

Hotel rooms, fucking (includes anal), blow jobs, lying about your whereabouts, explicit e-mail, texting or IMing. Cheated on girlfriends? Sure. My wife, in 15 years, proud to say 'no'.

Porns been a big factor in my marriage, despite my objects that it not. Women, sometimes rightfully, feel porn sets the bar too high for them. Men, on the other hand, are naturally drawn to that kind of stuff. Additionally, people should have a right to explore things without being constantly concerned about getting 'caught'. That's why being honest is the best course.

I'm nearly legendary ...I'm game to shower my lover's (lovers') body (ies) with affection several times a week. And for sex, just like dancing, the hips are where it's at.

nope.

I didn't learn to masterbate until I was 17. 17!!!!!!! Had I known how to sooner, it would have saved me so much trouble.

Male

Jack

Love can be absolutely necessary or rather cumbersome - are we talking single or married here?

In my early 20's I was ALL about sex... now that I am in my late 20's my sexual prowess is just one tool in my arsenal of hot qualities.

I think this question has a lot in common with Question #1 - are we playing for keeps?

I have my partner wear a condom until we are COMMITTED - maybe 6 or 9 months of continuous dating. I also get tested every time I have a new partner.

This could take all day to fill out - LOL. "Sex in a public place" is perhaps a quick, generic, and truthful answer.

Cheating is when you give into temptation, cross that invisible line, and engage in activity that can get you caught and dumped mighty quick. Regrettably I have engaged in this act.

I used to think porn was really cool and kinky. Now I think it is boring and a great way to have your partner entertained if you're not in the mood.

I think I am a great lover, probably because I have had people tell me multiple times (and no I did not bring the subject up). I am sensual, coy - basically I am a big huge slut in the sack.

People with small "packages" should target virgins or dwarfs - take your pick buddy!

I know that my body is a sacred goddess. I also know that breathing is KEY to mind-blowing sex, so go shag your yoga teacher.

Female

Straight

Angelina

That I'm not trustworthy. Some say that indicates it is me who can't be trusted, but that's not it at all. Trust can be shattered almost as easily by rumour as it can real infidelity. Besides, being accused of stuff you didn't do, but wouldn't mind trying, gets old pretty quickly...

marriage; no subject to broach. Right?

Hotel rooms, fucking (includes anal), blow jobs, lying about your whereabouts, explicit e-mail, texting or IMing. Cheated on girlfriends? Sure. My wife, in 15 years, proud to say 'no'.

Porns been a big factor in my marriage, despite my objections that it has not. Women, sometimes rightfully, feel porn sets the bar too high for them. Men, on the other hand, are naturally drawn to that kind of stuff. Additionally, people should have a right to explore things without being constantly concerned about getting 'caught'. That's why being honest is the best course.

I'm nearly legendary ...I'm game to shower my lover's (lovers') body (ies) with affection several times a week. And for sex, just like dancing, the hips are where it's at.

nope.

I didn't learn to masterbate until I was 17. 17!!!!!!! Had I known how to sooner, it would have saved me so much trouble.

Male

Jack

absolutely nothing

It's ok...but not hardly likely

Not a damn thang man...

I get tested every time I go for my annual check up

Three some...with two men...I haven't done anything that I'm not willing to do again..

I guess that depends on who's giving the definition

Not at all

Yes...because my man told me so

Nope..what ever has been done is over..and whatever hasn't remains to be seen

How to get myself off

Female

Straight

tina

nothing sex is fun

most of it , no sex is still some what taboo

to kinky and strange

CONDOMS TRUST NO ONE

been tied up by 2 woman nude spanked , ass fucked , made to lick them and then got sucked off . it was great fun . There is nothing i have done that i will not do again

sex with aother . Yes allot i need to have lots of partners

it opened my eyes most people believe it is all fanstay but it is all real u just need to open your eyes

yes , becase i think getting the women off is the biggest turn on

no not really just one thing to a chick the was nuts get over yourself u are not that good

Swingers are much more fun

Male

Straight

250

Terry

In some instances it has nothing to do with love. When I have sex with my partner, it is sometimes love and sometimes just pure physical gratification. When we have sex with our 'non-vanilla' friends, it is purely physical satisfaction, it is often very erotic to watch how sexual your partner is.

There is some of my identity that is wrapped up in sex, I am a very sexual/sensual person, I love giving and receiving. It is Ok, if that is the person you are. I believe that the US is very sexually repressed compared to other countries. Everything is bad

My partner and I are very open, I don't worry about anything he may think of me. Some thoughts worth talking about others are purely fantasy.

We both get tested and use condoms when engaging in sex with others, no glove-no love.

There is much I would really consider 'kinky', being 'kinky' is described by the world. As long as I'm not doing something that the other person doesn't like, hurting someone/something (if they don't want to be hurt LOL) or humiliation. As long as it is erotic, turns me and my parther(s) on and everyone's into it and it feels good then what's to think about. I would consider any sexual act that my partner(s) were into.

My partner and I define cheating as having sexual relations with someone other than each other when both parties do not know about it. No, I have no reason to cheat on my partner, all I simply have to do is let him know.

Porn is fun, depending on who you share it with and at what level. It is erotic and sexy. I like to watch others, so watching porn is very erotic. The only time I'm repulsed by porn is when it involves animals, children and potty games.

Yes, I consider myself a good lover. I'm very willing to give (of course receiving is nice too), I want to satisfy my partner(s), I'm verysexual and sensual, and just enjoy sex.

I wish I would have known (when I was younger) how great sex really is. As I've matured, I've learned to experience and enjoy the experience of sex in many ways. I've learned to enjoy all levels of sex such as making love, having sex and just fucking. All levels are wonderful with the right person/people.

Female

12?

Love to have sex

very little

no you have to do something

that I'm prudish

condoms

no comment

being Monogamous

yes I feel I'm in tune w my partners

no comment, ok a 3-way (not the good kind)

IT ISN'T SUPPOSED TO GO IN THERE?!!!!!!!!!!!

Male

Straight

10+

Ralph

it helps

Sex is everything in our society.

That i'm ugly

I am celibate since death of husband

outdoor sex

don't look at it

yes, i made sure husband was satisfied

it's too late

I wish I had been very sexual with my future husband when we were in college

Female

Straight

Sue

Love makes it more intense. But lust is pretty fun too.

1. Used to be a lot of it. Now maybe 10%. 2. Yes.

He's terrible at this.

Condoms or monogamy. I just pull out the condom if I'm going to use one. Yes I get tested.

Sex with mother and daughter. Bondage (it was boring).

Having relations that you've explicity (or implicitly) agreed not to. Yes. Done it.

Saved me from going out looking for hookers. It probably has affected the way I look at the world. Less now than in the past.

Yes. I make sure my partner is having a GREAT time. Before I try to get off.

No.

Sex is nothing to be ashamed of.

Male

Straight

200

Gary

Sex is passionate and can send you to celestial places when performed with someone you love, but the idea of meeting a total stranger and doing all the dirty deeds (without the risk of disease) that have stalked your thoughts can take you there also - so I guess love has nothing to do with it unless you want to feel the closeness in cuddling after the sex is done.

It is ok to not be sexual in our society-especially nowadays with everyone profoundly exercising religion.

A partner may think that I'm rather promiscuos because of the way I perform in the bedroom, but that's not the case. I just love to totally please the person I'm with.

In the past, I practiced safe sex (using condoms) because I wasn't sure about any of my partners & how serious our relationship was/would be. I would mess around and tease, but when it came time to get down and dirty - that's when it was time to wrap it up. I made sure my partner wore protection because I couldn't live with the fact that I'd caught some disease from someone due to a lust fix. I am now in a monogamous relationship, which I have been for the past 4 years and we do not practice safe sex. I have been tested in the past and was tested last year because it's required for life insurance.

Cheating is when you're committed and either you or your partner develop an emotional bond with another person. Emotional bonds lead to other things and I believe if you feel that you're starting to share that with someone, it's your responsibility to tell your partner and let them make a decision whether to deal with it or move on.

Porn has never affected me in the past, but now that I'm with my fiance and he watches it sometime - it kinda makes me angry. His libido is high and I sometimes don't share that so he will watch porn to relieve some tension =). Then I feel as if he doesn't love me, find me attractive, or not kinky enough. He doesn't do it when I'm home, but it still bothers me. I am learning to get over it though. :-)

I consider myself a very good lover because I aim to please. I want my partner to experience something beyond himself when we're together sexually.

I am a very sexual girl and I haven't been able to express that in my current relationship due to the fact that my guy isn't that experienced. I think because of his lack of experience, he's a bit uneasy about really opening up and trying new things. Because of his behavior during the past 4 years, I've become sexually repressed and irritable with life. I think it's due to the suppression of my sexual desires.

If you've had sex with one person, you've had sex with them all. People sleep around looking for the next best thing when ...there's really no difference. With a little time and effort, you can shape that one person into the perfect sexual beast and reap all the rewards. They can be your freaky librarian, stripper, teacher, cop, rockstar, etc. Just be patient and let your desires be known.

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hyacinth_grl

I believe that love is definitely a must. I want to keep sex as special as it can be, why would I share something so personal with anyone I didn't love?

It's totally okay! Our culture has turned sex into a 'must' but it doesn't HAVE to be.

That I'm fat.

I made sure my partner was tested after he cheated on me. Plus we use condoms and foam.

I won't try all of the positions in Cosmo's Kama Sutra. (I'm not a contortionist.)

No. But I think cheating is sleeping with someone else after you've been in a monogamous relationship.

Unfortunately, yes. I'lll never look at livestock the same again.

I'm inexpirienced, but I think I'm good because I am very passionate. But I'm not so good at giving head. (which is kind of good, because I need practice.)

nothing

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Bone_grrrl

On the one hand, I think love and sex are so wrapped up in each other that they could sometimes be viewed as one and the same. On the other hand, is love really a separate emotion, or is it merely another part of our biological imperative to procreate (which I guess would still mean that it is totally intertwined with sex).

Not much. I keep my sexual identity confined to the bedroom. My sexuality is not part of my day-to-day life style. That being said, I've lost track of how many times I've gone out with female friends for a drink and ended up having sex be the main subject of our conversation. Of course it is OK not to be sexual in our society. As a matter of fact, I think our society still tries to supress and hide the fact that we are all essentially sexual beings.

In general: that I am a boring person. Sexually: That I am not a good lover.

I always wear condoms. It is not something that I broach with a partner or ask about. I just do it. I have been tested once for STDs within the past year (fortunately all tests came back negative).

My last long-term partner enjoyed having me choke her while we were having sex. Although I've never thought of this as a turn-on, I was incredibley turned by it with her just because of how much she was turned on by it. I can't think of anything I've tried sexually that I would refuse to do again.

Cheating is going against a commitment you've made to your partner to be exclusively with them. I have never cheated.

I don't really watch much porn. I find the plasticity (or fakeness, if that is a word) of it to be huge turn-off. It has not affected the way I look at the world.

Yes I do. I find that I am the most turned on when my partner is turned on. I get off on my partner getting off; which means that I pay very close attention to what my partner enjoys sexually and am potentially turned on by just about anything, if it is a turn-on to my partner (with a few small exceptions, such as anything involving excrement, piss, or extreme pain and physical damage).

Nothing I can think of.

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Ofer

nothing

i think its more like impossible not to b sexual in our society...

that he had bettr

definitely get tested and CONDOMS ppl

kinkiest..idk if it was when i was with another female or when i had a 3som with 2 dudes..there is nothing i wont do again

anything u dont approve of your partner doing

no...i like porn

i am a great lover...i give my mate whatevr he/she wants and im a loving person..i make a person fall inlove easily

ive been with a girl before.

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unl

Flo

Love certainly isn't necessary to do it and to do it right. If you've ever had sex with someone you love, however, well then there is just no comparison. Love is like the frosting on an already incredibly delicious cake.

I'm an extremely sexual person. Sometime I find myself thriving on sexual attention, even if it's coming from someone I'm not even attracted to. I love having, watching, talking about, and improving upon sex. Some of my friends even refer to me as "their sexy redhead." It is definitely OK not to be sexual in our society, as long as you remain aware of the changing times and the fact that in general our society has become pretty sexual.

I have something close to a phobia of being compared to my partner's past sexual encounters. I always worry that I'm not as pretty or skinny or exciting or adventurous as what they've had before and that they'll get bored with me.

When I used to sleep with people I wasn't dating, I would always use condoms. Now that I'm with someone exclusively, we don't use condoms and I'm not on the pill. I know we're playing with fire, and it won't continue much longer, but it does feel better and it's much more spontaneous. I've never been tested.

I had a one night stand once with someone I had talked to online once (the night before). We talked about our fantasies and one of his was to put a belt around a girl's neck while having sex doggie-style. So we did that. I won't have a one night stand with someone I just met and act out our fantasies ever again.

Cheating is doing anything intimate with a person who you are not dating, while dating someone else. Flirty texting, flirting, kissing, touching, having sex. I think cheating is the lowest of the low as far as relationships go; absolutely unforgiveable. Obviously, I never have. I also don't think I have ever been cheated on, but I've really only been in two relationships where it would have mattered.

I love porn! I always have. In fact, my favorite female "actor" is Jenna Jameson. Seriously, though, I really enjoy watching porn and it is something that brings my boyfriend and I together. He likes it, I like it, we like watching it together, and it always leads to us having sex. The only way I think it has affected my view of the world is when I still hear people trash porn or say it's dirty or if you watch it then you're a pervert. It has become too large of an industry and a useful sexual tool for couples these days. I just think it's closeminded, old-fashioned, and somewhat ignorant to still judge people on their personal interests.

Yes and no. Yes, when I'm with someone I love and trust (like I am now), because I am up for trying anything with them. I think sex is a good way to keep the relationship exciting and it's a great feeling when we find something new that we both love. I would say no because I do have a lot of insecurities about my body and I find myself trying to cover up some not-so-hot areas of myself during the act, even though I know that's such a turn-off and it just takes away from the experience for both of us.

Yeah, I guess...oh, do you want me to say it here? Ok, sure, yeah I can do that. I'd like to tell my boyfriend now that I have had sex in a parking structure before and there's a chance that it was caught on tape and in the hands of that person, who I currently don't speak to.

That it's ok to not have feelings for someone who has feelings for me, and it's much better to tell them up front than to wait and try to spare their feelings. That just creates stalkers.

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Niki

sex without love is little more than masturbating with a real person present. having sex within the confines of a loving monogamous relationship can take a person to heights of pleasure and connection that a one night stand could never approach. to me, sex is sacred and must be treated with respect.

i think our society tries too hard to define people according to what their sexuality is. sex and orientation is such a small part of who i am as a human being. of course, it is important. but it does not define who i am. i refuse to let our society label me with hetero, homo, bi or confused. I am ME. all of those terms have political and social connotations that do not begin to describe the real person i am

that i am a pervert.

condoms. no promiscuous sex. i've been tested.

getting a blow job on a train. i haven't been all that adventurous

cheating can be either sexual or emotional. sexual cheating can even be kissing a person who is not your partner. emotional cheating can be confiding in and/or developing an intimate romantic connection with a person other than your spouse. i have done both.

porn has damaged my relationship with sex. i have been accidentally exposed to violent and sexist fantasies that i never wanted to see, but didnt know what i was clicking on. when i found porn to my liking, it served as a way of disconnecting from my spouse and myself. very addictive. i think it also gives a lot of young men a distorted view of what sex and relationships really entail.

yes. but i am not a porn star, or a sexual performer. i am a good lover when i am willingly engaging in the act of making pasionate love with my spouse.

that i didnt have to have sex with tons of women and be a casanova or don juan just to be considered a real man. a real man knows how to set boundaries and take care of himself. a real man doesnt let others tell him how he should be sexual. that i don't need a woman to feel complete or to be happy.

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25+

Carlos

Everything. Hot, wet, no-guilt walkaway one nighters are always fun. But for sex to reach it's greatest height, there must be a sense of loving and being loved on an ongoing basis. The best sex I have ever had was with a woman I felt I should be with forever.

Not for me. Sex is part of who I am, and I love it.

I usually reveal all my kinks pretty early so that if she is going to be frightened away it comes before we grow deeply attached.

I have gotten tested and would expect a new lover to be tested.

I fisted a woman who really needed that. I would do it again if the circumstances were the same.

Haven't cheated since I was 19 (a long time ago). It ruined everything for me. I never told her about it, but it made me feel like trash (which cheating is, a trashy thing to do). In a committed relationship, cheating is taking your eye off the prize.... the relationship, and putting it on something else. By the time you try to get your eye back on the relationship it has been changed, by your faithless act.

Nah, I rarely view anything pornographic, though I do enjoy nudity with my lady. Porn is really just something that stimulates somewhat. But so do bra ads, and TV shows, and walking behind a beautiful woman in the mall. Porn, really, is no more or less important than any other stimulant.

Yes I am a good lover, because I pay attention to what actually stimulates her. And that changes from day to day and hour to hour... We are very creative, and don't return to old, boring stand-bys time after time after time.

No. I am pretty open about what I am.

How much many women like being talked dirty to, in a somewhat subtle way. Not like guys in high school talk dirty with one another, but in an admiring way about the things that she likes to have happen, or might like...

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Tippycanoe

Love makes my partner and I care more about making each other feel good. Plus, we've had the time to get to know what each of us likes and we are comfortable enough to ask for what we want. Still, sex with a new person I am just attracted to sounds like a lot of fun. I miss having sex that was just random sex for the sake of sex.

For me, a lot of my identity is wrapped up in feeling sexually attractive to the opposite sex. I love to have sex. But, I love feeling like guys want to have sex with me even more. It's a high and I worry - being in my early 30's about what I'll feel like if, as I get older, I no longer get that attention from men.

That I'm boring in bed.

condoms. I ask if they have a condom - or I get one if they are at my house. Yes - I've been tested.

I did it on the roof of my apartment once. I tried being "choked" while doing it for awhile. I won't do it anymore because I have that fear that I'll accidentally get choked for real and I care more about my life today (because I have kids, i think) than I do about getting crazy .

Cheating is betraying your partner's trust - usually through sexual contact with another person. I cheated on every boyfriend I've ever had up until my husband - who I am married to now. Now - I just cheat in my head and I think I go a little far with flirting.

Porn has given me an idea of what it means to be "hot and sexy" in bed. It is fake and overdone though. Still - it pushes me to let go of my inhibitions and for that i like it.

Yes - because I enjoy what I am doing. I still haven't fufilled my husband's fantasy though - to see me with another guy. I don't know if that would make me a better - more adventurous lover- or if it would just be stupid.

I feel like I've said most of what I've needed to say. I enjoyed every one of them and now that I am married - sometimes I miss the freedom -- yet I've never had a better lover than my husband. We absolutely have way better sex than I ever had with anyone else.

I wish I would have known when I was younger - that I was really hot and not been afraid to use it. I am much more assertive now and I enjoy being sexual. I was too timid as a younger person and too self-conscious.

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Tara

Everything. It's the extra spice that makes the experience a bit more exciting and intimate. Then again, so does serendipitous sex with a stranger.

All of it. Is it OK not to be sexual? Of course. Different strokes. Stoopid question.

If it's purely a sexual relationship, nothing. If it's an emotional relationship, I care that my partner might think I'm cheating.

I gamble, get tested early and often, and respect the hell out of somebody who says they have an STD just before you take the big plunge. Rather than run, I try to make the STD-stricken enjoy the experience without catching the cooties myself.

Went down on a gorgeous blonde sitting on a barstool in a crowded bar. Had a relationship with a woman who had a girlfriend who was married and had a child. It was a four-month threesome, basically, that lasted up until we started double-dating with the clueless husband. Nice guy. Guilt won out over stereo sex.

The cheater cheats because he/she/me doesn't take a relationship seriously. Second part? Serial cheater as a single; maniac monogamous as a married man.

Nah. I like girl/girl, facials, etc., and especially like to enjoy it with a partner. Based on my experience, all women are bi. They (and I) really dig feminist porn, particularly what the Brits have done.

I can only go by feedback, which has always been overwhelmingly positive. I get a lot of "your cock is HUGE," and I lacerated the vagina of a cheating wife so bad that she had to call her husband from the emergency room (we were both pumping like pistons, the excitement level was so high). I also think I get high marks because I truly get more pleasure out of pleasuring my partner than the reverse. Getting sucked off is sweet, but going down, losing the concept of time and space, is hypnotically sublime.

Well, I may well have fucked your wife. Nothing comes easier than a woman who has, thanks to her husband, forgotten that she's gloriously fuckable. It's easy to blame hubby for not keeping things lively, but there is a bit of guilt (and, admittedly, a bit of thrill) that you're actually MILFing an MILF.

I wish I knew when I was a child how easily you could charm the pants off of somebody. I'd have drilled half the MILFs on my paper route.

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Mark

I believe the sex had with a female is about love, but with a male it is just about getting off.

My identity is disguised, people are way to critical of any forms of alternative lifestyles. Especially coming from a mormon family.

That I am not the best they ever had.

I am scared to death to get tested, I would rather live life not knowing than knowing.

Meet a stranger in a rest area

Cheating is having at least one individual love the other while the other one is out being a trader.

I am 18 and have been addicted to porn since I was about 12, I am very confused with my sexual identity and I think porn is the cause. It allows you to be free with no strings attached and when it comes to relationships thats not how it should be.

Yes, I do consider myself a good lover, once someone has caught my interest and keeps my attention for long enough, I make worth there time.

I am addicted to public restrooms, everywere I go I have to check out the bathroom.

Porn is very destructive

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1-2

DetroitCity Lover

nothing at all

all the motivations of life boil down to sex, to be not sexual means you haven't figured out why you are geared toward sucess, money, fame, happyness, or anything in life people aspire toward.

the only fear i ever had was that they would think it was over to quickly, but i fixed that, and now they ALWAYS come back, no exceptions.

condoms. I ask about the last time they were tested. I don't always want to know about other partners, but the number of them makes a difference. I've been tested against my will several times (my mother does blood work, and whenever i get the sniffles she comes ov er and draws my blood and takes it in for testing, she's done this since i was 10, my father tells me what she tests it for)

Fucked in a church a couple times. but it was more of an accomplishment because the preist is the one that gave me the keys!

doing anything past 1st base with someone else, yes i have cheated, and i have advice i have given all of my girlfriends "if you do it, and regret it, don't tell me. but if i find out, its over." yes i have cheated. sometimes its worth it, sometimes its not.

porn helps me sleep at night. i view the world as being more permiscious then its face value because of porn. because it is, and that is proven to me constantly.

I do, but not because i think i do a great job, it's only because thats what i'm told, and not just from my girlfriends. and the only reason why i beleive that, is because every girl i have ever slept with still comes around on a fairly regular schedule, about every two months, and they say the same things again and again. it's done wonders for my inflated ego

public school gave me the wisdom of the ages

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baxter

It's nice, but not necessary.

It's okay for ME not to be sexual, but I don't care what "society" thinks.

I don't approach sex with fear. It's all about joy. Rejection is HIS problem, not mine.

Condoms always. I get tested once a year with my pap smear.

I have had sex literally at the barrel of a gun. I've also been choked unconscious.

Cheating should be defined explicitly -- and only -- by the people in the relationship. And by the rules set in the monogamous relationships I've been in, no, I haven't.

I wish I enjoyed it more, only because the more opportunities to be turned on the better.

I do think I am. In the immortal letters of Dan Savage, I am GGG. I'm also a hot and horny bitch.

Nope.

I wish I'd known earlier that I am a masochist.

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Not a whole lot! Sure sex with someone you love can be special and more intimate, but random sex or booty calls are fun because of the lack of expectations or commitment.

About 98%. I've always been a highly sexed person. I've been an exotic dancer for 15 years and you have be sexual and comfortable with it to be successful. I feel like my libido is much more like a mans. As far as not being sexual in our society, to each his own.

Than I'm a dirty skank! There is such a double standard when it comes to how sexually liberated women are viewed verses men. It's "ok" for a guy to sleep around or have multiple partners but women that do are viewed as whores.

Condoms! And if you can't be straight forward and just say "hey, you got a condom?' or better yet carry your own then you aren't mature enough to be having having sex in the first place.

I'm very open and experimental so thats a tough one! Maybe my old roommate and I with 3 guys?

Cheating is having any kind of sexual contact with someone other than your significant other without their knowledge of consent. And who hasn't at one time or another?

I enjoy porn and it really comes in handy when masturbating!

Yes I do, because I am comfortable with myself and my body and when your comfortable you can let go and enjoy the experience!

No, some things are better left unsaid.

Some people will never be happy with themselves and therefore will never be happy with anyone or anything else.

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200

Melissa

When I was younger, I thought that was all it was about. After being married for a while and now divorced, I completely get the attitudes of the girls on Sex & the City. It's more about feeling good than about feelings.

I think having a positive self image is a big part of this. If you are not confident in yourself, you won't feel sexy or attractive. Having the confidence to be a flirt adds spice to my life and is fun. Flirting whether with men or women is part of who I am.

???

Was tested the last time at the gyno. Condoms always. Anything else is a deal breaker.

Pulled over on the side of a busy city street in Detroit (at night) to give my partner a blow job after he got me off while I was driving.

When you are in a relationship and you either physically or emotionally are in involved with another person. I have been the other woman once.

I've seen it and not really into it. It doesn't get me going.

Yes, because I care about the satifaction of the person I'm with.

???

I wish I had let myself enjoy sex more when I was younger. It was more about feeling like there was a deeper connection with my partner than there really was. I sometimes didn't want to let go of control of myself because I didn't want him to think I was strange. Now I don't care and let it all go. I've never had better sex in my life.

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Gabrielle

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BETBUIPSEKISY

It depends on the type of sex. Since you can just make love, fuck or have sex.

It would depend on the person. If I really like the person then I would not want to have sex with them unless it is really special. However, if I really do not care about them then to me it does not matter.

That I am having sex.

Right now, the person that I am having sex with I do not protect myself. I only go tested once.

Nothing. I will never do it at school again.

The act of doing something that you would only do with your partner. Yep.

No.

I do not. I really do not do anything special.

Yes, I am in the process of doing that now.

I would of waited until I was in love with the person.

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Chris

Well, depends on age and desire... I think when love IS involved, I wait longer...

Not much.

Not fit.

Always use a condom

No, never. Been asked a couple times to be "the other woman" tho...

Not at all. no.

Well it has been a while since a consistent loving relationship, but, yes, ... very giving!

That it really IS ok for a female to enjoy and want sex, too!

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LSK

Lust will get the job done, but love makes it so much sweeter.

I'm sexual, but so many other things too. I think it's ok to be sexual but there should be equality in sexuality and it should never be ok to use sex as a form of power and control.

That sex might come without emotion...because most of the time the two are very closely intertwined.

Condoms - not an option.

I'm pretty conservative.....sex in public I guess...and if I was in the same situation with the same person again....YES.

Making a verbal, emotional, physical committment to someone and then, without them knowing about it, having emotional or physical intimacy with someone else. No way. If you don't want to be exclusive with the one your with, be honest and be free, but cheating is never ok.

Doesn't. Most porn represents women as nothing but sex objects and we are so much more than objects for men to masterbate with so I don't watch the stuff.

Of course. I'm attentive, affectionate, curious and 36 (which means too old to hold back on what I want).

When you thought I was faking it --- I was.

That it really is ok take as long as it takes for you to get the satisfaction you deserve!

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30?

lindsey

Nothing really. I don't have a problem with one nighters.

I like sex a lot. I'm not cruising every week but I'd never tell anyone they shouldn't. I have a few friends who are virgins but it's hard to understand them. I think it's OK not to be sex crazed these days but there are few who aren't. If they say they aren't they're lying.

He won't like my body.

I just started using condoms. I didn't for a long time and he (Father Time) finally slapped me in the head and told me to buy some Tojans. I've never had an STD but I have more partners now. I use condoms all the time because having multiple partners increases my risk of getting an STD. These days it's safe sex or no sex. I get tested for STI's twice a year.

So far so good :) I won't backtrack. Once I'm finished with a guy I don't keep his number. That just leads to problems.

Cheating is when a person has sexual relations with someone who isn't his or her partner which with whom they are (supposed to be) committed.

It's hard to say. I remember watching it as a kid. It turned me on then but not now. Maybe I'm desensitized. It really hasn't changed the way I look at the world.

Only once the clothes come off would I consider myself a good lover. I'm really bad at flirting.

RIM JOBS AREN'T THAT BAD! Every should give and receive at least one in their lifetime.

To use condoms.

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Natasha

Everything and nothing. It's sex great to do it with someone you love but some just need to get a release.

This is a free country, sure it's okay not to be sexual and it should always be your choice.

Not sure. I'm wayyyyy to freaky.

MOST of the time I used condoms. The other times I just thank God for letting me not catch anything.

Can't think of anything now.

To me thinking of being sexual with someone else is just as bad as the act itself. But hey most of us have a great imagination and sex is part mental RIGHT? Yes, I have.

I had never really looked at porn until recently and now I'm trying to not do it anymore. It's much to time consuming. It hasn't affected the way I looked at the world but it has affected the way I think of myself, in a negative way that is. I can see how people get hooked. Guess I shouldn't have throwed those stones.

Yes, I do. Cause I have a great imagination to try different things and I love sex and willing to try different things. Except threesomes.

No.

How great masturbation is :-) and wish I had experienced sex with another female.

Female

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30+

Kendall

I don't think the two should be connected. Love and sex are two totally different things in my book. Granted, I would rather have sex and love together, but it is like having ice cream with chocolate syrup...I prefer it that way, but can appreciate it either way.

I am a Unisexual at the moment...just me myself and I....and it makes me feel that society sees me as a loser. Luckily I don't care! I know how to do it just right, only takes 5 minutes and there are no relationship problems to go with it! :o)

That I am ugly or fat or unattractive. Can I blame society for that please? lol And that I will be rejected because I have herpes.

I make getting tested together one of the "dates" that has to happen prior to sex. Some people run, some are relieved that I made it simple for them to feel safe too. But I also insist on condoms.

Lets just say it involved carrots and leave it at that, okay? I won't have sex with men who have giant wangs....they are beautiful to look at, fun to touch, but painful to use.

Cheating is having sex and/or intimate relationship with someone you are married to or dating exclusively. I have not cheated, but have been tempted. Golden rule...I don't want him to cheat on me, so I cannot cheat on him.

I like it, helps me get where I want to go faster....but I HATE that people are victimized by being in it. Some people are okay with it, but lets face it, some of those people are being scarred for life!

I am a good lover because I am creative and inventive. I can think of many, many variations on a theme. And I am never in a hurry.

Thanks for raping me you fucking asshole! Thanks for making me fear that other men will do the same to me. I hope someone rapes you in the ass one day...burn in hell ya bastard!

That men can give you herpes without ever having symptoms.....always use a condom people, always!

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Dee Dee

Everything if there is no love connection there is just no romanace

All of it! No, because sex is a natural thing and if we were' nt suppose to have sex im pretty sure GOD would have created us with out a vagina and a penus.

Im a freak and bed but so sweet in the public, presenting the image of not being a freak. But its a time and place for everything